DaveC
Blue Crack Addict
Here we go. A real confessional.
So I've reached my breaking point.
I've felt for the past few years (I really noticed it first when I moved out of res in 2006, although looking back it's been going on since at least high school) that I'm in a huge funk. Today I sat down and wrote out a list of things that "aren't quite right" with me, and it's a lot longer than I thought it would end up being. Here it is:
- Feeling generally down, occasional feelings of utter hopelessness.
- No motivation to take on new tasks/projects, or to start things that HAVE to be done (cleaning the house, looking for a job, etc)
- Can't finish tasks I start before moving onto something else
- Can't focus on what I'm currently doing/losing interest quickly (if I'm reading a book, I usually can't get through more than a page or two before my thoughts start to drift)
- Self-medicating (since '05-'06, I've been smoking a LOT of weed and drinking more - or anything else I can seem to get my hands on - than I used to just to take my mind off things and feel better for a little while - it's getting way beyond excessive at this point)
- I always feel physically "off", constantly feeling ill or just generally sore
- 90% of the time, I'm in a low mood, and I find it much more difficult to go from feeling down to feeling alright than vice versa.
- I get anxious over small things (meeting people, sometimes even just being out in public) but I find I don't really care all that much about big things I should care about (I often didn't give a rat's ass about exams or papers in school and it really killed my marks)
- Difficulty making new friends (I often feel like I'm "not good enough" to hang out with others when I meet them, sometimes "why would (so-and-so) want to hang out with me?" runs through my head when I'm trying to meet new people)
- Difficulty sleeping (I have at least one sleepless night a week, usually more)
- Impulsivity (in spending money, or trying to find things to do)
- Uninterested/detached from everything. I often feel like the world is turning without me, and that everything's just passing me by, and often I really just don't care about anything. I've tried to pass it off to my friends that I'm just a laidback guy, but I just don't give a fuck about anything really.
- I change my mind all the time, on career plans, on what I'm going to do today, on just about everything really.
- I also have occasional thoughts of blasting myself. I was out on the rifle range with my Army unit last weekend and thought at least half a dozen times that I could pop myself in 2 seconds, and not have to worry about anything anymore (but I'm not at that point yet). I have thought about it probably once a month or so for the past two years.
- I have a stepbrother with ADHD, a cousin with Crohn's, and another cousin with type I diabetes. Both my grandfathers have heart problems, and all the older women on my mother's side of the family have Alzheimer's (grandma, great-aunts, great grandma, etc)
I'm at my breaking point here. I feel like I need to do something one way or another. I can't keep living like this or I'm going to start to tailspin. I've tried everything I can think of to get out of this (forcing myself to hang out with new people, the self-medicating thing, working out when I feel down) but nothing is working.
Can anyone who's been through something similar (or not, even) give me any advice? What should I do? I'm sick of this. Help.
So I've reached my breaking point.
I've felt for the past few years (I really noticed it first when I moved out of res in 2006, although looking back it's been going on since at least high school) that I'm in a huge funk. Today I sat down and wrote out a list of things that "aren't quite right" with me, and it's a lot longer than I thought it would end up being. Here it is:
- Feeling generally down, occasional feelings of utter hopelessness.
- No motivation to take on new tasks/projects, or to start things that HAVE to be done (cleaning the house, looking for a job, etc)
- Can't finish tasks I start before moving onto something else
- Can't focus on what I'm currently doing/losing interest quickly (if I'm reading a book, I usually can't get through more than a page or two before my thoughts start to drift)
- Self-medicating (since '05-'06, I've been smoking a LOT of weed and drinking more - or anything else I can seem to get my hands on - than I used to just to take my mind off things and feel better for a little while - it's getting way beyond excessive at this point)
- I always feel physically "off", constantly feeling ill or just generally sore
- 90% of the time, I'm in a low mood, and I find it much more difficult to go from feeling down to feeling alright than vice versa.
- I get anxious over small things (meeting people, sometimes even just being out in public) but I find I don't really care all that much about big things I should care about (I often didn't give a rat's ass about exams or papers in school and it really killed my marks)
- Difficulty making new friends (I often feel like I'm "not good enough" to hang out with others when I meet them, sometimes "why would (so-and-so) want to hang out with me?" runs through my head when I'm trying to meet new people)
- Difficulty sleeping (I have at least one sleepless night a week, usually more)
- Impulsivity (in spending money, or trying to find things to do)
- Uninterested/detached from everything. I often feel like the world is turning without me, and that everything's just passing me by, and often I really just don't care about anything. I've tried to pass it off to my friends that I'm just a laidback guy, but I just don't give a fuck about anything really.
- I change my mind all the time, on career plans, on what I'm going to do today, on just about everything really.
- I also have occasional thoughts of blasting myself. I was out on the rifle range with my Army unit last weekend and thought at least half a dozen times that I could pop myself in 2 seconds, and not have to worry about anything anymore (but I'm not at that point yet). I have thought about it probably once a month or so for the past two years.
- I have a stepbrother with ADHD, a cousin with Crohn's, and another cousin with type I diabetes. Both my grandfathers have heart problems, and all the older women on my mother's side of the family have Alzheimer's (grandma, great-aunts, great grandma, etc)
I'm at my breaking point here. I feel like I need to do something one way or another. I can't keep living like this or I'm going to start to tailspin. I've tried everything I can think of to get out of this (forcing myself to hang out with new people, the self-medicating thing, working out when I feel down) but nothing is working.
Can anyone who's been through something similar (or not, even) give me any advice? What should I do? I'm sick of this. Help.