martha
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martha said:
Instead, he's avoiding you, and being stupid. Even though men over 40 are exceptionally hot at times, age doesn't always bring maturity. You have a reason to feel bad about the way he's behaving (and so does he), and I still say it's better to find this out now, rather than after a few dates.
u2bonogirl said:Im just going to throw this out there and you can take it or leave it.
Instead of developing self doubt, and beating yourself up over being "rejected" or whatnot try and look at it this way:
Being good for one another isnt a matter of being "good enough" for the other person, its just a matter of fitting right. Dont look at it as rejction, or another failed attempt. Try to look at it as having eliminated another person from the list as a possible match for you
Alright, that is so true, but you knoiw, rejection is the cruel thing no matter what....
Irvine511 said:April -- i think he was putting himself out there, in this specific way -- he was saying, "yes, i know you're interested in me, and i find you appealing, but from experience, i know that this probably isn't a good idea."
so i just put a whole bunch of words in his mouth, but that's what it sounds like to me.
go have lunch. and be his friend. and that's it for now.
whenhiphopdrovethebigcars said:Like others have pointed out, i would be careful to mention sex at workplace, but to go to report someone for that (as some of the people in this thread said), wow, that´s bitchy. You´re watching sex and the city where stuff like that happens all the time.. would you really report something like that? I think it would be wise to do so only when you feel seriously offended, not when you´re in a kinda private, confidential talk, making fun etc.
whenhiphopdrovethebigcars said:
Like others have pointed out, i would be careful to mention sex at workplace, but to go to report someone for that (as some of the people in this thread said), wow, that´s bitchy.
anitram said:
But in this day and age, I think you have to be very aware of the fact that different people will react differently to comments which they view as inappropriate.
anitram said:
Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't report him for that and I've heard far worse.
But in this day and age, I think you have to be very aware of the fact that different people will react differently to comments which they view as inappropriate. For various reasons, right or wrong, and that is why, IMO, you really shouldn't bring sex into a topic of conversation unless you are very friendly with the coworker in question. When you're talking about it in a group of people, no matter how small, you have no way of knowing how it will be taken.
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LarryMullen's_POPAngel said:
This morning I was dropping something off in the copy room and I saw his cute butt (he was digging in the supply cabinet for something) but proceeded to drop off my things without noticing him. Then I turned around and he was there, saying "good morning" with this huge smile. I smiled, said, "hello", then walked out.
lady luck said:Irvine is right.
Moreover, if I were in your shoes I'd be quite upset... I mean, the fact that you are young doesn't mean you're stupid, ignorant and unaware of everything in the world.
Sure, maybe you do not have a lot of experiences... but how can he knows?
Wasn't he supposed to be a cool, great guy?
IMO, he lost a lot of his charme with what he said...
I like your new approach: be cool, be friendly and walk on.
LarryMullen's_POPAngel said:I smiled, said, "hello", then walked out.
martha said:
He's gonna wake up one morning very soon and smack himself on the forehead when he realizes he let you get away.
LarryMullen's_POPAngel said:Ok, as for all this sex talk at work stuff, he and I have said stuff like that to each other for a long time and he knows I'm not offended by it so we're cool. In fact, I remember the first time he said something like that to me. The next day he came up and the first thing he did was come to my desk and started to apologize, and when I said, "Please, don't worry about it," he said, "Ok, just covering my ground here!" in a joking way and we were cool.
phanan said:
So when I think it reaches that point, and you've reached an understanding with the other person about what he/she is comfortable talking about, then it's ok as long as you are discreet about it.
U2Girl1978 said:A Christmas Cad wouldn't hurt!
ETA: I meant to say CARD! I can't believe I said that.
LarryMullen's_POPAngel said:I think he's beginning to catch on...
digsy said:if you're only planning on giving one to him and him alone then i reckon no on the christmas card idea.
i just don't think that, after everything and how you're trying to be calm and cool, its a good move.
if its just him it's very personal and will give out mixed signals with your current behaviour towards him
LarryMullen's_POPAngel said:
Oh, definitely... Which is why tonight I'll be purchasing a pack for work, lol.
I'm on the fence about the card thing, really. If I do give him one, it won't be anything fancy, and there will not be any more invites of any nature (though the urge to give him my address and to tell him to "bring the mistletoe" is pretty strong ), but I guess it wouldn't hurt, to let him know I still think of him or whatever.