MirrorballLemon
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So here's the lowdown on this story that even the Fox network couldn't come up with....
Last winter I met this really great girl at school. we became really good friends, which was awesome. At the time she was going through alot and didnt want a relationship, but she really led me on into thinking she did. Everytime I'd get my hopes up I'd get screwed over and things would fall through. We still remained friends, and I didnt give up hope that one day we would be together. Eventually, I began to loose intrest, and of course, she decided we should date. So we got together, but by this time it was summer and I was home from school, so we were in a long distance relationship, which really sucked, not to mention my interest in her wasn't really there anymore becuase I was tired of the cat and mouse game she was playing. We each traveled to visit each other a couple of times throughout the summer, and the times we had were good. When she came to visit me we hung out with my friends and when I visited her we hung out with her friends. Her two best friends (both girls), were really nice people, funloving and pleasant to be around. Towards the end of the summer, as I was preparing to return to school, I was more miserable with her than ever, we were always bickering about stupid shit, and i was contemplating a breakup. The day before I was to return to school, we got into an argument over trust (which she had betrayed me over something pretty serious), and brokeup. However, we decided that we could still remain friends and if things got better maybe we could try again. By the end of my first week back at school, her best friend (bf A) revealed to me that she had a summer long crush on me. Now, I didn't want to betray my ex, but I am also the kind of person who will give anyone a chance, and if things work out, then great. So i began to see bfA, with my ex's knowledge. she wasnt happy, but she wasnt overly mad either...yet. Eventually, things became somewhat serious with bfA and I, and my ex was furious. she cut off all ties with me and made bfA choose between me or her. bfA choose to save her friendship with my ex, and we "broke up" (we weren't dating, but for lack of a better term...) I totally understood the situtation, and I didn't really fight it. I felt bad for doing this to my ex, but the way i see it is it's my life and I'm free to do what I want with it. So right after bfA and i split, my ex's other best friend tells me she has a crush on me too! OY!!!! now what do i do? do I learn from past experience and say "sorry, we cant do this" or do i give her a chance too? Well, since I'm an idiot, I chose to give her a chance. And both my ex and bfA were absolutely furious, and all hell broke loose. The typical high school drama that accompanies breakups was in full force x1000. (we're all in college, and we're all adults) rumors, lies, all sorts of good stuff... anyways, after a few rough patches, bfB is now my gf, and we're both extremely happy. But the thing is i really do have a guilty conscience about all this....i feel like such a low life for doing that to my ex. I was never out to hurt my ex or anything, I was never out to get even with her, it's just that they're 3 really great girls who I click really well with in 3 different ways...and they happen to be best friends. On the other hand, i don't think what im doing is totally wrong. i didnt cheat on her with them, we were done, over, and i moved on. so needless to say im totally conflicted...
any advice would be appreciated, good or bad, im open to criticism....which i know there will be plenty
Last winter I met this really great girl at school. we became really good friends, which was awesome. At the time she was going through alot and didnt want a relationship, but she really led me on into thinking she did. Everytime I'd get my hopes up I'd get screwed over and things would fall through. We still remained friends, and I didnt give up hope that one day we would be together. Eventually, I began to loose intrest, and of course, she decided we should date. So we got together, but by this time it was summer and I was home from school, so we were in a long distance relationship, which really sucked, not to mention my interest in her wasn't really there anymore becuase I was tired of the cat and mouse game she was playing. We each traveled to visit each other a couple of times throughout the summer, and the times we had were good. When she came to visit me we hung out with my friends and when I visited her we hung out with her friends. Her two best friends (both girls), were really nice people, funloving and pleasant to be around. Towards the end of the summer, as I was preparing to return to school, I was more miserable with her than ever, we were always bickering about stupid shit, and i was contemplating a breakup. The day before I was to return to school, we got into an argument over trust (which she had betrayed me over something pretty serious), and brokeup. However, we decided that we could still remain friends and if things got better maybe we could try again. By the end of my first week back at school, her best friend (bf A) revealed to me that she had a summer long crush on me. Now, I didn't want to betray my ex, but I am also the kind of person who will give anyone a chance, and if things work out, then great. So i began to see bfA, with my ex's knowledge. she wasnt happy, but she wasnt overly mad either...yet. Eventually, things became somewhat serious with bfA and I, and my ex was furious. she cut off all ties with me and made bfA choose between me or her. bfA choose to save her friendship with my ex, and we "broke up" (we weren't dating, but for lack of a better term...) I totally understood the situtation, and I didn't really fight it. I felt bad for doing this to my ex, but the way i see it is it's my life and I'm free to do what I want with it. So right after bfA and i split, my ex's other best friend tells me she has a crush on me too! OY!!!! now what do i do? do I learn from past experience and say "sorry, we cant do this" or do i give her a chance too? Well, since I'm an idiot, I chose to give her a chance. And both my ex and bfA were absolutely furious, and all hell broke loose. The typical high school drama that accompanies breakups was in full force x1000. (we're all in college, and we're all adults) rumors, lies, all sorts of good stuff... anyways, after a few rough patches, bfB is now my gf, and we're both extremely happy. But the thing is i really do have a guilty conscience about all this....i feel like such a low life for doing that to my ex. I was never out to hurt my ex or anything, I was never out to get even with her, it's just that they're 3 really great girls who I click really well with in 3 different ways...and they happen to be best friends. On the other hand, i don't think what im doing is totally wrong. i didnt cheat on her with them, we were done, over, and i moved on. so needless to say im totally conflicted...
any advice would be appreciated, good or bad, im open to criticism....which i know there will be plenty
So hey, whatever man.
