I?m loosing hope...

[elevation]

I know I?ve got my health etc and I have no reasons to complain.... but I?m starting to worry that I?ll never get in a relationship. I?m a Christian living in one of the most secular parts of the world. To make things worse, I guess there are four females for every male in Christian communities . I?ve tried everything (yeah, there was another confession) but I don?t know where on earth to find him (I?ve also gone global ). A boyfriend at the age of 26 is that too much to ask for?...

I know you can?t do a thing to help me..I just have one of those days and I just had to say it...

 

[beli]

Hang in there. I know that sounds trite but you never know whos around the corner.

Are you saying you want a Christian boyfriend and theres not enough Christian men around?

Do you go to a church or similar group where you can socialise?

 

[elevation]

Hang in there. I know that sounds trite but you never know whos around the corner.

Thanks for the support.

Are you saying you want a Christian boyfriend and theres not enough Christian men around?

Exactly

Do you go to a church or similar group where you can socialise?

Yes, but there are only a few singles left (and most of them are girls)

 

[beli]

What about another church? Or are there church groups you can go to? Like youth groups, but a bit older?

Do you have a hobby? One where you may be able to join a club?

PS How do you know if someones Christian when you first met them? I dont mean that in a mean way. I was just thinking you could know some Christian men and not know they were Christian.

 

[Another U2 nut!]

Hey I know how you feel! Maybe you need to make friends in another congregation, or parish or whatever. There are many congregations where I live, and oodles of single guys. Heck, half of my friends are single guys, and then there's other ppl I know in other congregations. But they're not my type, or they're too young, or too shallow, or too old and divorced! Or they can't handle intelligent, interesting, opinionated women like me Hang in there though! Just check ppl out- but don't let em smell desperation...that makes people run.

But hopefully things will look up 4 u!

 

[elevation]

What about another church? Or are there church groups you can go to? Like youth groups, but a bit older?

There are other churches..but it?s a small contry

How do you know if someones Christian when you first met them? I dont mean that in a mean way. I was just thinking you could know some Christian men and not know they were Christian.

Sometimes you can?t tell right away but sometimes it?s very obvious because of words you use, values etc.

 

[Eirinn]

I think I know what you mean. Decency is nowadays an underrated feature, confessing you have some values that you live by is frowned upon as a cliche. I am married myself, but I remember talking to two of my younger colleagues at work. Both male, 32 and 26 years of age, single (hey, maybe an option for you? Poland is not that far away...). We asked them why don't they marry, and they simply said it's hard to find 'a decent girl' (their own words), one that would understand that marriage is a serious commitment. And it wasn't exactly Christian values they meant, just general things like trust, being faithful, ready to compromise. It's really sad.

 

[LoveTown]

oh boy, do I know how you feel! I'm 28 and hoping Mr. Right is just around the corner. All my friends are married and have kids or are working on having them and I just feel left behind.

I can't offer you any advice...just comfort in knowing that you arent alone

 

[oliveu2cm]

There are other churches..but it?s a small contry

but it's a big world! my boyfriend and i grew up 3000 miles apart from each other... but when we met there was no turning back. I know you said you've gone global.. but it really is a big world!

I think the best way to "find a guy" is to be true to yourself. Don't compromise your values or standards, and continue doing things in life you enjoy, socializing, hobbies, education, etc! He's out there... I don't think God would give you (or anyone) a desire for a good Christian man if it were never meant to be.

Try not to beat yourself up about it too much, or focus on the negatives (although I have been there done that, know how much easier said than done). Just keep doin' what you're doin... he's out there gettin' ready for you, at least that's always what I used to believe for myself!

 

[KristenF]

It may sound trite to say this, but it seems like often times you'll meet someone when you're not trying to. My husband literally knocked on my front door. My high school boyfriend and I had just had a baby and he couldn't deal with the responsibility, so I ended up moving back in with my parents until I could get on my feet. At that point I was completely disgusted with the male species and definitely not looking to meet anybody. One day my future husband, who had a landscaping company at the time, knocked on the door to see if we needed any yard work done. Fortunately, my parents did need some stuff done, he and I became friendly over the next few months and the rest is history.
So keep your head up, it will happen for you.

 

[elevation]

Oh thanks to you all for your comforting words ... That really means a lot to me