Originally posted by ~unforgettableFOXfire~:
Well, I have a lot of friends (of the female variety, i mean me, lots of friends, that goes without saying LOL [so very not true, I digress...]) and Ive been hearing the same things for quite some time. Yes, it is all guys, or almost all, its not just you, guys just dont know what they want, and theyre too stupid to make the right choice when it comes up and slaps them in the face. So, for the mostpart, guys are assholes, and everyone hates them... Ill end my little rant there before I get way too bitter about society and start... ok there I go... lol...
I think the above should be clarified...from the perspective of a genuinely nice
teenage guy, then yes, most guys are assholes.
No offense meant on the age thing, foxfire, but there's definitely a higher concentration of assholes in the teenage years
(Not to say that there isn't a good number of assholes as you get older, but you get the point).
Now...I could start a whole other rant on how society has fed everyone this bull that in order to be somebody you've got to have somebody, which has made lots of people (both men and women, but I'd say women more) feel like they've got to have
somebody around no matter what, so much so that they've forgotten who they are on their own and how to live on their own without some love interest or whatnot, and only have an understanding of themselves when they've got someone else. You shouldn't need to be either involved with someone or constantly trying to find someone in order to feel good about yourself.
I'll just say this: Women, just because some guys change their minds doesn't make you any less beautiful, special, worth it, or attractive. If he doesn't see what you have to offer, he obviously isn't the one for you. Guys, just because you haven't had much/any success with girls and it's frustrating to see girls get treated badly, it doesn't mean that you're doomed to spend the rest of your life as the eternal "oh, you're such a good friend" to women. Things will get better. Believe it or not, there are women out there who want to find someone who is "such a good friend." And remember this, acting bitter, sad and lonely usually isn't the best way to attract the woman of your dreams.
So yeah...be comfortable with yourself. Don't be afraid to change things you don't like, but don't change things because you think it's what someone else might want, but because you honestly think it'll make you a better person. If you can do that on your own, then it's gonna make you feel a helluva lot better about yourself right there. And if you give off the feeling that you know who you are and are comfortable with it, then that's always a nice thing for the opposite sex.
*Looks at the above* Geesh, reading some of that you'd think I had relationships all figured out or was in a fantastic one. Answer: none of the above
. But I am trying to take some of my own advice, and after a period of intense self-doubt and questioning a lot of things, I guess the only direction to go is up now.
So I'll stop there. I could go on for quite some time (and I already have). But yeah, there's my optimistic outlook on the good ole love life.
