I am such a square....

[Ali Rose]

*beats self up* Why am i such a weinie??? ....Gater round i have a story about me being a total loser and the reason i will be single forever....

Setting: last month, Pickled Parrot for drinks with the Co-workers.

Me: ends up tipping back a couple too many and sees random cute/nice guy working behind bar. So my Coworker finds out and says hes good friends with the guy (We'll call him Chad...cuz thats his name)

Coworker: makes him come over and say hi.

Me: *crawls under chair and dies of embarrasment*

Fast Fwd to today at work

Coworker guy: So would you wanna go to dinner with Chad? He asked me about you yesterday...I think i'll give him your number....

Me: *crawls under chair again* NO WAY. YOU WOULDN"T.

Coworker: *steals said number from rolodex and will be giving it to Chad tonight*

Me: *throws cell phone in river and moves to Abu Dhabi*

Why can't i just be normal and date like everyone else does? Am I 12 years old? I'm scared to go out with him cuz he's way out of my league- one of those super good looking i go to the gym 3 times a day and shop at Banana republic kinda guys.....and because, its just weird to be set up...I seriously think just asking someone on a date before you even know them is just awkward and lame......? Someone correct me if i'm wrong...I have a week to gather myself for this atrocious event.....GAH!!!

 

[diamond]

Ali-
You will be fine

First off, dont undersell your self
He wouldnt ask you out if he wasnt struck w your physicxal beauty.
Next play him esp if you DIG him
This is your best move.
Act mildly interested..He will keep coming for you in conversation and follow up calls if he wants you.
Lastly DO NOT b easy esp if you are slobbering.
This is bad form
Play your hand well

Good luck.
Diamond

 

[Ali Rose]

Who ever invented dating should be drug out into the street and shot

How can i DIG him when i don't even know him?? How do i know hes' not some psychokiller? The only reason i'm doing this is because when i said "I don't Do dates" my boss said to me---"You're gonna have a pretty lonely life then...." and i was all

He better not want a kiss until like the tenth date....Cuz i can't even kiss a guy unless i'm Totally GAGA for him...which happens really often.

Ok I'm gonna stop ranting now and just do it. Then they can write on my gravestone "She went on a date" I guess whats the worst that could happen??

 

[diamond]

Re: Who ever invented dating should be drug out into the street and shot

How can i DIG him when i don't even know him?? How do i know hes' not some psychokiller? The only reason i'm doing this is because when i said "I don't Do dates" my boss said to me---"You're gonna have a pretty lonely life then...." and i was all

He better not want a kiss until like the tenth date....Cuz i can't even kiss a guy unless i'm Totally GAGA for him...which happens really often.

Ok I'm gonna stop ranting now and just do it. Then they can write on my gravestone "She went on a date" I guess whats the worst that could happen??

this is the reason for dating..
to find out.
ok?
db9::

 

[Ali Rose]

*sigh

*takes dating advice from Diamond*
* jumps off cliff*

I better go to the gym now.. I have a week to lose 10 pounds.......

 

[Ana]

Ali I've seen yer piccie and you're gorgeous. I bet He's the one out of your ligue


Date the guy! What can you lose?

 

[Sicy]

you have to date or else you'll never find the one

Ali I've seen yer piccie and you're gorgeous. I bet He's the one out of your league

Date the guy! What can you lose?

I like Ana's advice.

 

[diamond]

I thought my advice was lovely

The 1st date=the screening date

db9

 

[Ali Rose]

WAIT a min....

Lastly DO NOT b easy

*gets slightly peeved*



another reason i hate dating......Why do guys think if you so much as glance their way you want to rip all their clothes off???

CUZ I DON'T, YO.

 

[Ana]

I thought my advice was lovely

AWWW. .Don't be mad db... Some girls got it, some sexyguys don't

 

[diamond]

Re: WAIT a min....

*gets slightly peeved*



another reason i hate dating......Why do guys think if you so much as glance their way you want to rip all their clothes off???

CUZ I DON'T, YO.

Not "easy"
I mean..overly "welcoming"
Boys need mystery..my faux pau- whatever sorry for wrong implication

db9

 

[Sicy]

hoo hah

diamond, personally I dont think you should be giving anyone dating advice.

 

[Ali Rose]

OOOOHHhHHhhhhh,,,,

Thanks for the clarfication!!

*gets unpeeved*

 

[diamond]

Re: hoo hah

diamond, personally I dont think you should be giving anyone dating advice.

Baby
Im The Dr Love of Interfernce
db9

 

[u2er]

Chad. I that name.

 

[missmacphisto]

Its funny, Ali, But generally speaking I'm almost the exact same way.

I've been mistreated by too many guys to get too attached to them too soon. So it takes me awhile
With my current relationship, I am not allowing myself to get too attached, as I dont expect it to last very long. Its all I can have for the time being though, as I plan on moving so i dont want to get involved in anything long term right now.

Anyway, yes, go out with him, keep your guard up, but give him a chance. And let him know your true feelings, so he knows how to handle things, knows what to expect, etc.
You'll do fine. Just keep your eye on him. Not that you wouldnt want to, from the sounds of it!!!

 

[Lilly]

 

[diamond]

I think you should go out w Diemen, Ali btw

db9

 

[missmacphisto]

Re: WAIT a min....

another reason i hate dating......Why do guys think if you so much as glance their way you want to rip all their clothes off???

CUZ I DON'T, YO.

OMG. I know. I have had guys of every stripe act this way torwards me - married guys, losers, crud, guys with massive egos,etc.
I will look at them no differently than i look at every other human being. But for some damn reason, they think the fact that I make eye contact means I'm screaming "Take me, i'm all yours hot stuff!!!!"
Good lord. Get over yourselves, guys!!!

 

[Ali Rose]

I'm gonna make sure i immediately start talking about marriage and children......



Then i'm gonna get real "pissed" and pour my drink over his head for no reason and storm out.

 

[Basstrap]

chin up, beautiful!
life is gonna work out just perfectly for you

Funny, pretty, sensitive, deep, etc etc

You are everything a real guy looks for
and whoever is lucky enough to end up with you will be forever indebted to you , be that chad or someone else

you have many many reasons to exude confidence

 

[LarryMullen's POPAngel]

I'm totally the same way, girl.

I freak out if a guy shows interest, then never do anything about it. Good thing I've stopped whining about being single, huh?

Try to relax, go to dinner, and have fun. Good luck!!

 

[Ali Rose]

Bassy, marry me.

*falls on floor*

 

[Lemon Meringue]

I agree with staement below

I thought my advice was lovely

The 1st date=the screening date

db9

You're just going to go meet the guy and find out if you want to see each other or not. Either you'll like each other and see each other again...or you won't. If you are really worried about it, arrange to meet him somewhere rather than having him come pick you up. That way you can leave if he's a creep or stay if he's not. You have more control over the situation.

 

[Diemen]

Why can't i just be normal and date like everyone else does? Am I 12 years old? I'm scared to go out with him cuz he's way out of my league- one of those super good looking i go to the gym 3 times a day and shop at Banana republic kinda guys.....and because, its just weird to be set up...I seriously think just asking someone on a date before you even know them is just awkward and lame......? Someone correct me if i'm wrong...I have a week to gather myself for this atrocious event.....GAH!!!

Ali, let me just say that it's a relief to hear someone from the opposite sex who has pretty much the same views on dating. Call me crazy, but I like to actually get to know someone as a person before throwing romance into the equation. I've got really mixed feelings about the whole "hi, I don't know you, but you look cute - let's go have dinner sometime!" school of romance. It's just way too centered on looks above all else, but then, every now and then taking chances and acting on impulses can bring great results (ask daafish about that one ).

I know first dates can be nerve-wracking, but just see it as an opportunity to make a new friend first. I guess the way I like to look at those kind of things is, if I think she'd make a great friend after the first date, then hey, if nothing works out romantically, at least I've got a friend out of it!

And please, don't set the weight-loss goal just so you can impress some guy you don't even know. You're very pretty as you are (heck, most people just look goofy in drunk pics, and yet you manage to look good still - damn you! ), and if 10 pounds matters to this guy, he ain't worth it. [cheesy-but-true]Do it for you and only you - everything else is a distant second.[/cheesy-but-true]

So go out and have fun! Relax, take it as a little chit-chat, whatever...If it doesn't do anything for you, then hey, you didn't know him, so no biggie, right? If sparks fly, well then you're a lucky girl and he's a lucky guy!

Besides, at least you've got a date!

 

[Ali Rose]

Re: Re: I am such a square....

Call me crazy, but I like to actually get to know someone as a person before throwing romance into the equation. I've got really mixed feelings about the whole "hi, I don't know you, but you look cute - let's go have dinner sometime!" school of romance.

This is EXACTLy what i was trying to say, i just couldn't get the wording right.....

but just see it as an opportunity to make a new friend first.

Yeah it hit me this morning that "Hey, Though I may not neccesarilly be looking for a BF this way, I could at least make a friend! WHich would be nice since I'm moving to this area soon and I don't know a soul down there yet....Plus I need a room mate, and from the sounds of it, he could be a potential!!

And please, don't set the weight-loss goal just so you can impress some guy you don't even know.

THis was a bit of a joke....don' t worry.
I admit I DO get EXTRMEMLEY self concious when i gain a few pounds but I usually lose them again soon! [/QUOTE]

Thanks so much Diemen, I'm glad there are a FEW guys out there with the same idea....Although, could I expect any less out of this fine, fine group of people????
I'm just gonna go and have a good time and think of it as a new friendship....I'm actually starting to even look forward to it a little...

*fishes cell phone out of Mississippi River*