Zooropa man
Refugee
I know that I might sound lame. I just need some imput(specially girls). About 5 yrs ago I had met someone(let's call her "M"). I was with her for about 4-5yrs., on and off. About two yrs or so ago, I met someone else(let's call her "cla"). I really hit it off with cla like no one I had ever met. Thru out most of the first yr or so I was confused about both. A short after meeting cla & broke up with M. There was something about cla that wouldn't let me let go of her. We did a whole lot. The whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing except, I made it clear that we were just friends. right... It was more then that but I was in denial so I find out now. Now, the relationship that I had with M was one of... just wanting to know how she was, how the dogs are, you know. Casual. Now, cla knew about M but M didn't know about cla. I guess I somewhere in me thought that things would work themselves out and I would end up with the right person. Cla has put up with a lot from me these past two years. From having our relationship being called "just friends", to keeping it pretty much under wraps. I was her first, yes, her first. Cla's that is. In some ways it felt like it was my first. The past year I've come to realize that... things between M & I were not going to work. But still, I left things the way they were. Thinking that it was ok. But I guess I was wrong. A month ago, U2 played Vegas(night II). Cla & I went together. It was the most memorable moment that I've had. Being there with the one you love & care about and watching your favorite band perform. The weekend had very special moments... I think you guys know. Anyways, coming back from the trip felt good. Like I was going to pop the question sort of speak. Not propose or anything, just tell her to lets take things further. Actually, I should have done that in Vegas(stupid of me... ) A week later, things started to fall apart. We got into a stupid argument that led to her telling me that she didn't want to be in this anymore. She was tired of waiting around to see if I would make a move or not. She said that she wanted to see what was out there. Test the waters sort of speak. I've made all kinds of efforts, showings, flowers etc. you name it. Now, I feel that I might loose her forever. I've realized my mistakes. As for M, well, I was finally honest with her about everything. I regret not telling her about cla in the first place. She said that she has moved on and is seeing someone herself. She also admitted that she is still in love with me. But would not want to be with me if I don't love her. I love her but not in that way. funny, that's what cla told me too. She said that slowly her feeling had been fading due to me actions. I asked her then why go with me to Vegas if she was feeling like that. She said she didn't want to ruin it, because she knew that I was having fun. By the way, cla & I met Edge & Adam at the start of the tour. She was their with me. Man, I feel so stupid. I had so many chances to make things right with cla. And at the same time with M, to let her move on. I know that this is long but if any of you girls have any advice.... it would help. Thanks...