shart1780
Rock n' Roll Doggie
My girlfiend is having an extremely hard time over something. She asked me if I ever think of other women in sexual ways. I don't watch porn or look at Maxim or anything, but of course sometimes I'll get sexual thoughts about other girls. I told her that when I do get these thoughts I try not to think about it (which is the truth), and that I only really have a desire to think of her that way (which is the truth). I don't get hot and bothered and get an erection thiking of these other girls because I basically push these thoughts out of my mind as soon as they come. In case you don't remember I'm that crazy christian guy.
She was completely suprised that I could ever think of another girl in this way, and I was completely suprised that she didn't know that it's just a human instinct. She feels horrible that I could think of girls besides her in that way. She says that she never thinks sexually of other guys. She also feels like my love for her doesn't mean as much as she originally believed, because over the last 27 months we've been going out, I'd still sometimes have sexual thoughts about other girls.
I told her that it's just a natural feeling that I push away. She says that doesn't help, and that she's still devastated that I could tell her I love her yet still think of other women like that. I told her love isn't about natural feelings, but how I deal with them and how I try to do the right thing for our sake. She doesn't believe that matters anymore, and is disappointed in the entire concept of romantic love. She says she's disappointed by love. She doesn't blame me, she just doesn't trust me anymore. No matter how much I try to prove her feelings wrong or convince her that that doesn't mean I don't love her, she feels the same. Her feelings are completely honest about this.
I should also add that she's completely unsatisfied with herself now. She never thought she was the hottest girl in the world, but she was confident enough in her attractiveness. Now she feels like it's in some ways her fault that I'd get thoughts about other girls. She thinks that if she would have constantly tried to please me maye I'd be satisfied.
Which is completely ridiculous. I've always been 110% satisfied with everything about her. Before I'd even fallen for her I found her extremely attractive. I told her that, now that I love her, It's not just the universally hot things I find attractive about her, but the little things she does that I've learned to love about her.
Basically nothing I say makes her feel better. She acknowledges that she her feelings may be unhustified, but that she feels that way either way, and she can't help it, so there's no point in me trying to change her mind.
What do you think?
She was completely suprised that I could ever think of another girl in this way, and I was completely suprised that she didn't know that it's just a human instinct. She feels horrible that I could think of girls besides her in that way. She says that she never thinks sexually of other guys. She also feels like my love for her doesn't mean as much as she originally believed, because over the last 27 months we've been going out, I'd still sometimes have sexual thoughts about other girls.
I told her that it's just a natural feeling that I push away. She says that doesn't help, and that she's still devastated that I could tell her I love her yet still think of other women like that. I told her love isn't about natural feelings, but how I deal with them and how I try to do the right thing for our sake. She doesn't believe that matters anymore, and is disappointed in the entire concept of romantic love. She says she's disappointed by love. She doesn't blame me, she just doesn't trust me anymore. No matter how much I try to prove her feelings wrong or convince her that that doesn't mean I don't love her, she feels the same. Her feelings are completely honest about this.
I should also add that she's completely unsatisfied with herself now. She never thought she was the hottest girl in the world, but she was confident enough in her attractiveness. Now she feels like it's in some ways her fault that I'd get thoughts about other girls. She thinks that if she would have constantly tried to please me maye I'd be satisfied.
Which is completely ridiculous. I've always been 110% satisfied with everything about her. Before I'd even fallen for her I found her extremely attractive. I told her that, now that I love her, It's not just the universally hot things I find attractive about her, but the little things she does that I've learned to love about her.
Basically nothing I say makes her feel better. She acknowledges that she her feelings may be unhustified, but that she feels that way either way, and she can't help it, so there's no point in me trying to change her mind.
What do you think?
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