mad1
ONE love, blood, life
Im aware that not everyone will have a best friend they’ve known since school – even at that as you both grow up you both come into your own (esp when it comes to boyf/girlf/hub/wife) and not be as close with each other, but still be best pals.
But even at that….if you have a good friend in your life….even if it’s someone you bonded with only year or so ago – is there relationship you have with them quite an equal give-and-take at like 50-50? Or are you/they the one giving/taking more?
Do you expect certain things from mates, but never confront them about it? Or maybe you do confront them? Has a relationship ever kinda broken down over small things?
By this I mean, as examples:
If they were stuck and asked you for a lift somewhere if it was a good distance away, would you expect them to offer a little to help toward petrol/gas?
(clearly if you offered, you cannot expect it!)
or
have you ever loant them money and did they pay you back quick enough or take a LONG time to do so?
or
are you both different characters that sometimes you clash? Or have you both ever fallen out for a good bit?
Or are you one who always offers yourself/your services as a person, because you always believe its better and selfless to be there for someone even if they are not pretty much helpful back, and there for you?
See, I lent a mate money one time (I offered, to help her in time of need) it was a small amount….OMG she always brought up ‘hey I know I still owe you that money’ many times, before opening her purse to pull out a tenner to buy drink – the tenner that could have been given back! but in the end, I didn’t get full amount back, and even then I got it back MONTHS later. I never said a word, about it not being full amount. But all I know now is that if she asked to borrow again I don’t think I can, because of trust issue.
And also, trying to talk to this girl, she starts talking about herself – she never really questions me about some things/probs Ive had, esp when I recently opened up to her – which means I see this will not become a good friendship, even thou we have each other to have craic with. She said shes been where I have with lack of confidence etc, but of course she would become different to how I would. She even assumes that I wont give my number out to a guy in a pub cause I don’t want to come across as ‘easy’ – what bollox, its more to do that the guy is pissed, and pubs are not the place to meet blokes. When she gets pissed she gives her number out a lot to strangers she met for five mins, which is stupid in my eyes. But she will have her way and argue that you gotta ‘take a chance/risk’ – yeah sure, considering she cant remember things she did when she was well blocked, like guys she kissed, or old mates she runs into and hugged and kissed – when she has a boyfriend – she is actually confused about boys at the minute. It’s like watching a child, sometimes.
I feel that someday I might explode on her should she get impatient with me again, and she is an impatient person…….at times she has the nerve to talk about other people being late/impatient – when she keeps others waiting and is impatient herself! ARGH! And she and her sisters have called many girls ugly, which I think is way too harsh.
And while it might be easy to forget about her and get someone my level - its also tough meeting new people at a later age, people who are free/available that you can hang with.
So really, for you reading, is your friendship a good 50-50 one?
But even at that….if you have a good friend in your life….even if it’s someone you bonded with only year or so ago – is there relationship you have with them quite an equal give-and-take at like 50-50? Or are you/they the one giving/taking more?
Do you expect certain things from mates, but never confront them about it? Or maybe you do confront them? Has a relationship ever kinda broken down over small things?
By this I mean, as examples:
If they were stuck and asked you for a lift somewhere if it was a good distance away, would you expect them to offer a little to help toward petrol/gas?
(clearly if you offered, you cannot expect it!)
or
have you ever loant them money and did they pay you back quick enough or take a LONG time to do so?
or
are you both different characters that sometimes you clash? Or have you both ever fallen out for a good bit?
Or are you one who always offers yourself/your services as a person, because you always believe its better and selfless to be there for someone even if they are not pretty much helpful back, and there for you?
See, I lent a mate money one time (I offered, to help her in time of need) it was a small amount….OMG she always brought up ‘hey I know I still owe you that money’ many times, before opening her purse to pull out a tenner to buy drink – the tenner that could have been given back! but in the end, I didn’t get full amount back, and even then I got it back MONTHS later. I never said a word, about it not being full amount. But all I know now is that if she asked to borrow again I don’t think I can, because of trust issue.
And also, trying to talk to this girl, she starts talking about herself – she never really questions me about some things/probs Ive had, esp when I recently opened up to her – which means I see this will not become a good friendship, even thou we have each other to have craic with. She said shes been where I have with lack of confidence etc, but of course she would become different to how I would. She even assumes that I wont give my number out to a guy in a pub cause I don’t want to come across as ‘easy’ – what bollox, its more to do that the guy is pissed, and pubs are not the place to meet blokes. When she gets pissed she gives her number out a lot to strangers she met for five mins, which is stupid in my eyes. But she will have her way and argue that you gotta ‘take a chance/risk’ – yeah sure, considering she cant remember things she did when she was well blocked, like guys she kissed, or old mates she runs into and hugged and kissed – when she has a boyfriend – she is actually confused about boys at the minute. It’s like watching a child, sometimes.
I feel that someday I might explode on her should she get impatient with me again, and she is an impatient person…….at times she has the nerve to talk about other people being late/impatient – when she keeps others waiting and is impatient herself! ARGH! And she and her sisters have called many girls ugly, which I think is way too harsh.
And while it might be easy to forget about her and get someone my level - its also tough meeting new people at a later age, people who are free/available that you can hang with.
So really, for you reading, is your friendship a good 50-50 one?