Is this a common thing? I thought there was some kind of unwritten internet code of honor that forbade this, except in maybe very extreme situations like deaht threats, but not for petty gossip. Someone did this to me (not here) and I feel like I've been stabbed in the back. It's a betrayal of confidence and trust among friends. Yes, this person was supposed to be my friend. There are 2 people involved, both very neurotic, histronic middle aged women. I don't know what to do. I am a mod on that board, and I could easily pull the fucking plug on both those bitches, and I should. But unfortunately, it's a much smaller community than here, only about 75 members with only about 25 posting regularly, and they are very active so they'd be missed and the tales (lies) they'd tell would probably destroy the entire community there by making people not speak to each other and stop posting. There's only one other mod and she refuses to get involved. What would you do?