Emotionally Unavailable

[shaynar]

WHO ACTUALLY SAYS THIS???


"I'm emotionally unavailable"


I had a guy tell me this after 3 AMAZING dates. I'm not kidding, those actual words came out of his mouth. I didn't think people actually said that.

 

[discotech]

nobody says that.




???? what?! thats ridiculous

 

[MissVelvetDress_75]

Well at least he told you.
I have heard that excuse many of times and have said it myself.

 

[shaynar]

oh I've certainly used an "ex" as an excuse, but I would never say that!

 

[starsgoblue]

What was said before and after that comment? I mean, what brought that on?

*curious*

 

[Liesje]

what does it mean?

 

[unforgettableFOXfire]

The emotions you have dialed are unavailable at this time. Please try again later.

It's one of those cliche things that people say when they don't feel you're in their best interest any longer, a better prospect has come up, or they don't think you're worth the time. Like 'let's just be friends for now'. It's a 'nice' way to be a jerk, mostly.

If people aren't interested, I don't get why they can't say 'I'm not interested' or 'Its too soon after my last relationship, I still have unresolved feelings/issues with my ex that I need to deal with'. Infinitely more clear than 'I'm emotionally unavailable'. People are going to be upset no matter what you say; might as well be sincere instead of insulting their intelligence by waxing sincere. Fake sincerety does little but bludgeon people with the fact that you don't have enough respect for them to be frank about things and have a real discussion about emotion.

People are wonderful that way.

 

[discotech]

if you're ready to give this up, you should be the one to break it off with him. i'm 99% sure he'll come running back to Marathon. tell him something like, 'i dont think it'll work between us, sorry. . . . ' then see who's 'emotionally unavailable'

 

[digsy]

i thought those words only existed in Sex and the City
surely no one out there has so little self respect as to actually use them!

 

[shaynar]

i thought those words only existed in Sex and the City
surely no one out there has so little self respect as to actually use them!

That's my point!!!

oh I have little care for the guy at this point.

-when I asked for clarification he said he wasn't over his ex. Man, I don't need someone who's going to give me such crappy excuses!

 

[jojo100]

it's a pretty ambiguous phrase to use, but at least he gave you an explanation of why his emotions are unavailable.

 

[clarityat3am]

I feel emotionally unavailable just reading about someone who would actually use that line on someone.

 

[girlhappy]

I love that line

 

[Carek1230]

I feel emotionally unavailable just reading about someone who would actually use that line on someone.

No kidding! What a JERK!

 

[For Honor]

WHO ACTUALLY SAYS THIS???


"I'm emotionally unavailable"


I had a guy tell me this after 3 AMAZING dates. I'm not kidding, those actual words came out of his mouth. I didn't think people actually said that.

so he told you after 3 dates..........

better than 4, or 10, you could say.

 

[carrieluvv]

its funny that he would say that about himself

women usually say that about husbands or boyfriends.
its usually when women are feeling emotionally and need thier spouse/boyfriends shoulder to cry on...
and they respond by changing subject or just avoid it all together.
i guess someone might do that without even realising they are doin it.

 

[shaynar]

Re: Re: Emotionally Unavailable

so he told you after 3 dates..........

better than 4, or 10, you could say.

yeah, at least he didn't use me to get over this ex, whoever she is. That could have been pretty crappy