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TheBrazilianFly

TheBrazilianFly

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I think most people have gone through this, you keep eye contact with someone for a long time but you never talk, this has happened all of my life and I kind of hate it by now. I never get that girl. I mean I’ve been with girls but never with that particular girl that I’ve been looking. Only a few times I have talked with the girl and maybe they get disappointed with me or I just don’t do things right cause it never moves forward. I always say to myself, how stupid this is just go there and start talking with her or else nothing will ever happen (“IT’S JUST A CRUSH!!”), but the girl always seem too important to me at the time me for me to simply go there and fuck it up.

This is happening again now. I got a huge crush on this girl. I have caught her looking at me and she has caught me looking at her. I can never really approach her cause she’s always surrounded by her friends (usually guys, she’s kind of a tomboy I think in terms of attitude wish just makes her more interesting) and I never have any really good subjects to talk with her. If I just go there with something stupid to say she might think I’m an idiot or something and stay away. Yesterday my teacher was talking to my friend and me and she joined the conversation, man, that was the closest we ever came and it was great I could see in her eyes that she is into me. Now I’m even more into her. I gotta do something quick.

So I want to know if anybody out there has been through this what did you do to get that person? What do you think I should do?

This is whole situation makes me a bit crazy! :crazy:
 
Get to know her in the school setting, like if you're in college then ask her to grab lunch at the union or something. See where it goes from there...then ask her out on a date. My advice is to let her do the talking, ask her questions, tell stories, stuff like that
 
u2bonogirl said:
I got them and they turned out to be a total jerk :grumpy:
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it happens to the best of us... the last girl i dated totally fucked me over. I'm deathly afraid of getting into anything, and I can't see myself in anything with anyone anytime soon.

..haha thats a lot of "any" words :p
 
TheBrazilianFly said:
I think most people have gone through this, you keep eye contact with someone for a long time but you never talk, this has happened all of my life and I kind of hate it by now. I never get that girl. I mean I’ve been with girls but never with that particular girl that I’ve been looking. Only a few times I have talked with the girl and maybe they get disappointed with me or I just don’t do things right cause it never moves forward. I always say to myself, how stupid this is just go there and start talking with her or else nothing will ever happen (“IT’S JUST A CRUSH!!”), but the girl always seem too important to me at the time me for me to simply go there and fuck it up.
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It happens to me :shrug:
 
Who is John Hinckley Jr

interesting character







John Hinckley Jr. was born in Ardmore, Oklahoma, and grew up in Texas. He went to Highland Park High School in Dallas and family later moved to Colorado. An off-and-on student at Texas Tech University from 1973 to 1980, in 1976 he headed to Los Angeles in hopes of becoming a songwriter. His efforts in this direction did not meet with success, and his letters home to his parents were full of tales of misfortune and pleas for money. He also spoke of a girlfriend, one Lynn Collins, who turned out to be a complete fabrication. He returned home to his parents' house in Evergreen, Colorado, before the year was out. Over the next few years he developed a pattern of living on his own for a while and then returning home, broke.

After repeated viewings of the 1976 movie Taxi Driver, in which a disturbed man (inspired by another aspiring assassin, Arthur Herman Bremer) played by Robert DeNiro plots to assassinate a presidential candidate to impress a child prostitute, Hinckley developed an obsession with child actress Jodie Foster, who played the prostitute in the film. When Foster entered Yale University, Hinckley moved to New Haven, Connecticut, for a short time to be nearer to her, slipping poems and messages under her door and repeatedly contacting her by telephone.

Failing to develop any meaningful contact with Foster, Hinckley developed such plots as hijacking an airplane and committing suicide in front of her in order to gain her attention. Eventually he settled on a scheme to win her over by assassinating the president, on the theory that as a historical figure, he would be her equal. To this end, he trailed then-president Jimmy Carter from state to state, but was arrested in Nashville, Tennessee on a firearms charge. Penniless, he returned home once again, and despite psychiatric treatment for depression, his mental health did not improve. In 1981, he began to target the newly elected president, Ronald Reagan. It was also at this time that he started collecting information on Lee Harvey Oswald, President Kennedy's supposed assassin, whom he saw as a role model.

Just prior to Hinckley's failed attempt on Reagan's life, he wrote to Foster:

Over the past seven months I've left you dozens of poems, letters and love messages in the faint hope that you could develop an interest in me. Although we talked on the phone a couple of times I never had the nerve to simply approach you and introduce myself. [...] the reason I'm going ahead with this attempt now is because I cannot wait any longer to impress you.


Chaos outside the Washington Hilton Hotel after the assassination attempt on President Reagan.On March 30, 1981 Hinckley fired a Rohm RG-14 revolver six times at Reagan as he left the Hilton Hotel in Washington, DC after addressing an AFL-CIO conference. Hinckley wounded Press Secretary James Brady, police officer Thomas Delehanty, and Secret Service agent Timothy McCarthy. President Reagan was missed but became seriously wounded when a stray bullet that bounced back from the bulletproof glass of the presidential limousine hit him in the chest. Hinckley did not attempt to flee and was arrested at the scene. Reagan survived his wound after surgery at George Washington University Hospital. Brady, who had a bullet lodge in his brain, was permanently disabled; McCarthy and Delahanty were less seriously injured and recovered.

At the trial in 1982, charged with thirteen offenses, Hinckley was found not guilty by reason of insanity on June 21. The defense psychiatric reports had found him to be insane while the prosecution reports declared him legally sane.

Hinckley was confined at St. Elizabeth's Hospital in Washington, D.C. He was allowed to leave the hospital for supervised visits to his parents in 1999 and longer, unsupervised releases in 2000. These privileges were revoked when he was found to have smuggled materials about Foster back into the hospital. Hinckley was later allowed supervised visits in 2004 and 2005. Court hearings were held in September 2005 on whether he could have expanded privileges to leave the hospital. Some of the testimony during the hearings centered on whether Hinckley is capable of having a normal relationship with a woman and, if not, whether that would have any bearing on what danger he would pose to society.

Hinckley is one of the assassins portrayed in Stephen Sondheim and John Weidman's musical Assassins, in which he sings a folk ballad, "Unworthy of Your Love", professing his love to Foster. The song is a duet with Lynette "Squeaky" Fromme who was cult leader Charles Manson's most loyal disciple. Lynette Fromme had herself previously failed to assassinate U.S. President Gerald Ford.
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joke...

HOWEVER. Yes I do have THAT person...! I think it's been nearly exactly a year since I went fucking head over heels, but I first saw her in around May last year and I was all :ohmy: I asked her out in January, but it went pear shaped since I've never been a very 'forward' person so avoided 'bothering' her meaning communication was painfully minimal and I probably really annoyed her so it finished 14 days later and I'm STILL thinking about her practically all the time.

my advice, do what you can to GET TO KNOW HER, and don't jump into anything too hastily. If she's nice, go for it, but she could turn out to be really horrible...
 
Never. I was in love with that guy at the univesity. It took me 7 years to foget him, believe or not. Abd believe or not, we were just looking at each other. Call me crazy. I had "in beween crushes" and all, but he was always at the first place. I was just crazy about him until he went into relationship with someone. Maybe that girl saved me in a way. I dont know, maybe i would still be in love. There is strong chemistry between us, but we are not soulmates, that is for sure. How could i be so stupid? Now i feel i have lost all these years for NOTHING AT ALL. When i met a guy this summer, and had a short relationship, he asked me many times:What happened with my love life?How can i explain to anyone i was in love with illusionand obviously needed one. And obviously wasnt ready for anything normal. And i was not 15, i was 25 and above. My God.
 
You could get to know her on dates. Beaver is right with getting stuck in the friend zone. Bad times, I say.

Maybe ask her to go out for coffee or something. Since she's been eyeing you too, she'll most likely say yes cuz she likey what she's lookin' at! :up:
 
Thanks for the advices people. :up: I decided I'm going to try to get closer to her and maybe make myself clear to her in the future. The thing is that she is always hanging out with this guy and me and him don't really see each other eye to eye, we don't really get along well, I don't really know why. So him being around makes it a bificult for me. Oh and I found out she has a boyfriend. I know, that's not good. I think my chances went down a little now with that but we'll see what may happen.
 
I got THAT guy but we started off as best friends first and still are. Took A LOT of courage to tell him how I felt. However,a really close male friend from high school I was in love with for like 7 years. Never did get up the courage to tell him how I felt during all of that time. In the end though I discovered that we are just meant to be really great friends. Just go up to this girl and start talking to her. At least establish some kind of communication with her.
 
TheBrazilianFly said:
Thanks for the advices people. :up: I decided I'm going to try to get closer to her and maybe make myself clear to her in the future. The thing is that she is always hanging out with this guy and me and him don't really see each other eye to eye, we don't really get along well, I don't really know why. So him being around makes it a bificult for me. Oh and I found out she has a boyfriend. I know, that's not good. I think my chances went down a little now with that but we'll see what may happen.
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I think you're right on track. I found "That GUy" in High School and now we've been together for 12 years - married for 7. Started with eye contact across the room and then he moved desks to be closer to mine and eventually we talked every day and then he asked me out.

And yah, I had a boyfriend when I first noticed him. So if she's looking at you, she's interested - just don't go over the top and scare her off!!! No freaky serenades or poems...just be your natural charming self and get to know each other! Enjoy the ride...and that includes the excrutiating anxiety over whether it's gonna work out :wink:
 
u2girlcj said:


I think you're right on track. I found "That GUy" in High School and now we've been together for 12 years - married for 7. Started with eye contact across the room and then he moved desks to be closer to mine and eventually we talked every day and then he asked me out.

And yah, I had a boyfriend when I first noticed him. So if she's looking at you, she's interested - just don't go over the top and scare her off!!! No freaky serenades or poems...just be your natural charming self and get to know each other! Enjoy the ride...and that includes the excrutiating anxiety over whether it's gonna work out :wink:
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Wow, that's a great story. Than you very much for the advice! :up:
 
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