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let's see if you can even get close to me. If I stretch out my arms you won't get anywhere. Don't try me, I have plenty of experience with Kaf comin' after me!
That's fixable.
The two times that I crossed the line with dating a friend turned out to be a bad idea. I knew it was a bad idea but still went there. I do not talk to him anymore.
That is what happened to me and this was a great friend. To stop talking to him was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.
1.)If you quoted the part where I talked about not asking girls who are interested in me out and said "grow a pair" then I'd agree wholeheartedly. Because in that area, I do need to.
I do not understand you saying it in response to the passage you quoted.....
I am not offended or upset or trying to start a fight, just explain yourself a bit here.....if you are going to explain what happened in those 30 seconds or how attraction can't be involuntary, then you're the smartest one here....
2.)The youtube video wont embed in certain sites. This is one of them.
Ditto.
Even though time has passed and I've mercifully crossed that elusive threshold of acceptance that this is how things have to be, I have moments when I feel that I'm still learning to live without him in my life.
That is what happened to me and this was a great friend. To stop talking to him was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.
Ditto.
Even though time has passed and I've mercifully crossed that elusive threshold of acceptance that this is how things have to be, I have moments when I feel that I'm still learning to live without him in my life.
Hugs for anitram
How long were your friendships for, and after that how long were the relationships for, and then at what point did you finally cut them off, and how long after cutting them off did it take to fully recover?
lauramullen, anitram, Diemin, I think I'm in the same situation as you guys were. How long were your friendships for, and after that how long were the relationships for, and then at what point did you finally cut them off, and how long after cutting them off did it take to fully recover?
I was best friends with this girl for about 6 months, and then we dated for 3 months, in a very messy relationship. We've been attempting to be friends for the last year with an on and off relationship, but I need to get out for good.
let's see if you can even get close to me. If I stretch out my arms you won't get anywhere. Don't try me, I have plenty of experience with Kaf comin' after me!
Next up:
BoMac and Kaffy tie the knot. Cannot wait!
Ok. I initially typed up a response describing a similar experience to yours and then sort of chickened out of posting it. But I also think that you, like me, take this stuff a little bit too seriously at times. I know all too well that more-or-less instant attraction exists and have experienced it myself, but I don't know that it's healthy to put women on a pedestal. Does that make sense?
Way late to the thread, but to answer Romi, it's not that you say that at least they aren't a friend, it's that you don't have to break up twice. It's pretty much impossible to remain friends with someone after you've broken up. I'm sure it can happen, but I know of no real life examples.
Don't deny your undying love for him!
But don't you become friends with someone when you start dating? So when the relationship ends you lose them as a friend as well?
Don't deny your undying hate for him!
With somebody who is a friend, you have a long history of friendship before you ever got together. In my case, he was one of my closest friends whom I had long talks with, went to the movies, hung out as a group, partied together, studied together, etc. All these things were completely separate from us being a couple and I just loved having him as a friend. So when you break up with that person, you still remember your years of friendship and suddenly you don't have that anymore. With somebody that you started dating before you were friends, there is no such history.
Anitram, Diemen, Laura and anyone else that has a friendship dissolve because of romantic complications, I most definitely empathize. Been there, and it's almost doubly hurtful. Sorry you've had to experience that, too.
But you are still only friends with that person in the context of the relationship. So all your memories as friends and lovers come from a time when you were a couple.
With somebody who is a friend, you have a long history of friendship before you ever got together. In my case, he was one of my closest friends whom I had long talks with, went to the movies, hung out as a group, partied together, studied together, etc. All these things were completely separate from us being a couple and I just loved having him as a friend. So when you break up with that person, you still remember your years of friendship and suddenly you don't have that anymore. With somebody that you started dating before you were friends, there is no such history.