BoMac
Self-righteous bullshitter
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It's all about confidence.
you can be as confident as you like but if you're an idiot, or unkind, or unfunny, or jealous, or clingy, or any number of things, your confidence in yourself is not just unjustified but useless.
Thanks NSW.
Thst is always a problem I seem to have. I guess I should just appear unconfident so that other guys will stay away.
How do you explain Elfa having a wife then?
No problem, and, as problems go, this is a good problem to have.
I should also say here that I'm posting in this thread a lot and so I hope it does not come across like I deem myself to be some sort of expert. I really don't know any more or less than anyone else, I just have had my own experiences, have a lot of friends in many different stages of happiness as it pertains to this topic, and of course I have a big mouth. So, forgive me if I'm sounding like I think I'm an authority, I'm so very obviously not.
I think my confidence is right in the middle. I don't have too much or too little.
strangely you have been a voice of reason . . .now what is with that
I took me awhile, but I finally did and I know everyone else will too.
Thanks
I have my moments.
Here's where I am these days: I would love to find someone to share my life with. Maybe that means marriage, maybe it's a long-term commitment without the legal bits. But if I don't find that someone, that's okay, too. I'm not going to allow my happiness to be contingent upon that.
And when I have my brief moments of whinging self-pity ("Why am I single? Wahhhh!"), I remind myself "It's because you never go anywhere, you dumbass."
Here's where I am these days: I would love to find someone to share my life with. Maybe that means marriage, maybe it's a long-term commitment without the legal bits. But if I don't find that someone, that's okay, too. I'm not going to allow my happiness to be contingent upon that.
And when I have my brief moments of whinging self-pity ("Why am I single? Wahhhh!"), I remind myself "It's because you never go anywhere, you dumbass."
Hey Joe, so what was the purpose of the thread? For advice? Just wondering.
Uberbeaver has a wife and 2 kids, BoMac. Some things defy explanation.
Also next up: The Cubs win the World Series, the Leafs win the Stanley Cup, 38C (100F) weather in January in Canada, and U2 acknowledges Pop's existence.
Here's where I am these days: I would love to find someone to share my life with. Maybe that means marriage, maybe it's a long-term commitment without the legal bits. But if I don't find that someone, that's okay, too. I'm not going to allow my happiness to be contingent upon that.
And when I have my brief moments of whinging self-pity ("Why am I single? Wahhhh!"), I remind myself "It's because you never go anywhere, you dumbass."
I think I'm reasonably confident, but tend to either be oblivious if a guy is flirting with me (I just assume he's being friendly and has no plans on asking me out), or I clam up completely. I know this is something I need to work on if I do want to "put myself out there."
Time to start putting an effort into it again, I think.
I have to disagree here. Confidence is important but shy people date, too. And too much confidence is a turn off for a lot of people.
It's not all about any one thing, plus, you can be as confident as you like but if you're an idiot, or unkind, or unfunny, or jealous, or clingy, or any number of things, your confidence in yourself is not just unjustified but useless.
Just to get people's perspectives and thoughts about dating and asking people out, from both a male and female point of view.
I expressed my thoughts on this, which kind of reflected my own struggles with trying to date and find a girlfriend.
I just want to get people's thoughts on the whole concept of courting, being courted.
I wanted to make this thread thought-provoking, especially for single people.
to all this. Pretty much what I wanted to say.True, but a lot depends on the level of the involvement by the other parent. In my case, my kids were totally abandoned by their birth father so naturally Rick took over and IS their dad. On the other hand, his kids have a mom, so it was a very fine line to walk as far as discipline and big decisions were concerned. You have to be involved but not "too" involved to where you are stepping on the other parent's toes. It's a hard balance, especially with teenagers. It calls for a lot of compromise and sometimes being the bigger the person.
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Well, if you're truly confident, you won't tend to be unkind, jealous, or clingy. An idiot, though, that can happen either way.It's not all about any one thing, plus, you can be as confident as you like but if you're an idiot, or unkind, or unfunny, or jealous, or clingy, or any number of things, your confidence in yourself is not just unjustified but useless.
Well, if you're truly confident, you won't tend to be unkind, jealous, or clingy. An idiot, though, that can happen either way.
Well, if you're truly confident, you won't tend to be unkind, jealous, or clingy. An idiot, though, that can happen either way.
If I ever had the option to date someone who was my friend first, I would say no, because it has ruined some great friendships.
Of course it makes sense.
All people want to date someone they find attractive, that's human nature.....but what people deem to be attractive varies wildly, and certainly your personality/charisma/sense of humor can alter the way you are perceived as well.
Bottom line is nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you sit at home all night whining about how women don't like you, yet you never even try to ask one out, well, you reap what you sow.