AttnKleinkind
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- Jan 24, 2005
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...is something I don't have. And something that I don't know how to get. I'm in university now, and it's recently become apparent to me just how very emotionally weak I am. I used to have a lot of confidence in middle school, I was very involved, and I was good at everything I did (relative to others). I think that the confidence there came from the fact that I was just comparing myself to others, because as soon as I got to high school, I became immediately insecure. There were a lot of people better at me than a lot of things now and I wasn't used to that. I just felt inferior. So I've been trying to think about where someone *gets* confidence from, and so thinking about the middle/high school dichotomy I know that it can't be something that I get only from comparing to other people...but at the same time isn't confidence based to a certain degree on what we can do and do well? And I'm not sure that those are mutually exclusive...how do you feel good about what you can do without also recognizing that it's something you do better than others? I hope this makes sense. Any thoughts on gaining confidence would be appreciated, this is something I would really like to work on in myself!