BoMac
Self-righteous bullshitter
As the title implies, I'm curious as to various perspectives on the delicate balancing act of pursuing or maintaining a career and getting into and ultimately staying in relationships.
A little background: I'm a very driven and ambitious person. I long ago decided that my career would be my priority and I won't stop until I get to where I want to be.
This fact is something I'm very upfront with with women. And it's also been a relationship killer.
I had been in a nearly two year relationship that ended not that long ago, and it ended mutually (probably the most mature break-up I've ever been in). The main reason for ending the relationship was that I was unwilling to budge on my career aspirations.
Very recently, I started dating another woman that I really liked - informally mind you - and she was well aware of my career plans. She appreciated my honesty, but yesterday told me she's interested in someone else, presumably someone that she knows will stay in town.
So this has left me wondering about where I go from here. I don't want to settle for a lesser position than what I've dreamed my whole life for, but I also want to give a relationship with someone a decent shot at succeeding.
So I guess my question is, how do you balance a career with a relationship? Has anyone been in a similar circumstance as me? How have you dealt with it?
And I realize that everyone is different, and it's ultimately up to me to decide what to do. I'm just looking for different perspectives on this.
A little background: I'm a very driven and ambitious person. I long ago decided that my career would be my priority and I won't stop until I get to where I want to be.
This fact is something I'm very upfront with with women. And it's also been a relationship killer.
I had been in a nearly two year relationship that ended not that long ago, and it ended mutually (probably the most mature break-up I've ever been in). The main reason for ending the relationship was that I was unwilling to budge on my career aspirations.
Very recently, I started dating another woman that I really liked - informally mind you - and she was well aware of my career plans. She appreciated my honesty, but yesterday told me she's interested in someone else, presumably someone that she knows will stay in town.
So this has left me wondering about where I go from here. I don't want to settle for a lesser position than what I've dreamed my whole life for, but I also want to give a relationship with someone a decent shot at succeeding.
So I guess my question is, how do you balance a career with a relationship? Has anyone been in a similar circumstance as me? How have you dealt with it?
And I realize that everyone is different, and it's ultimately up to me to decide what to do. I'm just looking for different perspectives on this.