starsgoblue
Blue Crack Addict
Ok, well some people here already know the story pretty well....basically I was seeing a guy and things went really badly towards the end, including a botched U2 concert (the unforgivable sin!) No but really, basically what I think it all boiled down to is this guy was frightened of me. He told me how it is really hard for him to 'let people in' and how being with me made him feel vunerable in a way because he had never had someone in his life be, according to him, so caring and understanding and loving.
Well, through an accident, I mistakenly called him last week (damn phone book in my cell phone!) and we talked for the first time in over a month. He suggested seeing a movie this weekend and me, not expecting him to follow through based on how he used to be, said 'yea just give me a call'. Well, not only did he call to reaffirm plans for this past Sunday on Thursday afternoon but he also came to see me at work in the beggining of the weekend. Needless to say I was shocked. On top of that he brought up the whole U2 concert incident and apologized for being such a jerk! So we hungout last night, and things were just like they've always been--we were talking so much we didn't even watch the movie we had put in and we were laughing like old times and sitting up late listening to and 'arguing' about music. All along I though maybe this was just a friendly type thing...until he tried to kiss me. I told him I wasn't interested in this being a one time thing and I was scared that I cared about him more than he cared about me. He pulled back and said something about it not being a one time thing for him and he looked hurt that I said that. I admit I caved because I had realized from the first second I saw him when he came to see me at work that I really had never stopped having feelings for him. I am willing to forget things that happened badly in the past, I realize he had a lot of bad stuff going on when we had starting seeing eachother that had nothing to do with me but was bad for starting a relationship around (a suicide in the family for example) but at the same time I am scared to get hurt by him again. If he ran away again I would feel so crummy. I have to think there has to be something there...I mean he had too much to 'clean up' with me first to even get me to hangout with him, it would be so much easier to just see anyone else but me if he just was looking for company, ya know?
What should I do? Should I try and start with a clean slate with him? Do you think he even wants that much? I don't know what the heck to think!
Well, through an accident, I mistakenly called him last week (damn phone book in my cell phone!) and we talked for the first time in over a month. He suggested seeing a movie this weekend and me, not expecting him to follow through based on how he used to be, said 'yea just give me a call'. Well, not only did he call to reaffirm plans for this past Sunday on Thursday afternoon but he also came to see me at work in the beggining of the weekend. Needless to say I was shocked. On top of that he brought up the whole U2 concert incident and apologized for being such a jerk! So we hungout last night, and things were just like they've always been--we were talking so much we didn't even watch the movie we had put in and we were laughing like old times and sitting up late listening to and 'arguing' about music. All along I though maybe this was just a friendly type thing...until he tried to kiss me. I told him I wasn't interested in this being a one time thing and I was scared that I cared about him more than he cared about me. He pulled back and said something about it not being a one time thing for him and he looked hurt that I said that. I admit I caved because I had realized from the first second I saw him when he came to see me at work that I really had never stopped having feelings for him. I am willing to forget things that happened badly in the past, I realize he had a lot of bad stuff going on when we had starting seeing eachother that had nothing to do with me but was bad for starting a relationship around (a suicide in the family for example) but at the same time I am scared to get hurt by him again. If he ran away again I would feel so crummy. I have to think there has to be something there...I mean he had too much to 'clean up' with me first to even get me to hangout with him, it would be so much easier to just see anyone else but me if he just was looking for company, ya know?
What should I do? Should I try and start with a clean slate with him? Do you think he even wants that much? I don't know what the heck to think!