I've lately begun to realize I've had quite enough of pretending to be a 'good girl' - you know, never do anything that others might consider wrong, and all that crapola. There's a definite feeling of suffocation happening as I head for 30 that I'm really, really dying to be rid of. I'd like to change my whole image, and all that. Thing is, actually doing it is another thing altogether. I would say I'm a bit anxious about it.
Being the Good Girl
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Mofo
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Change is always good, as long as you are happy, Good Luck!!
UberBeaver
Breakdancing Soul Pilgrim
Do it! Party on!
And take pictures!
And take pictures!
sassykat
The Fly
do it 
Numb1075
ONE love, blood, life
^ alter alert alter alert !!
Devlin - Do it, make the change, you live once.....
Devlin - Do it, make the change, you live once.....
nbcrusader
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A lot depends on what you mean by "good girl" and who you were trying to please by your actions. I'd hate to think you were denying yourself things for the benefit of others who really didn't care. On the other hand, I'd hate to see you do things just to do them when those things really won't make you happy.
JCOSTER
ONE love, blood, life
Do what makes you happy first and foremost, if there is something you want to change about yourself for the good, then go for it, if its something not for the good than
shaynar
Acrobat
Go for it girl! Just enjoy life!
(Trust me, I understand your frustrations)
(Trust me, I understand your frustrations)
For Honor
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Devlin said:
Perhaps one of the first steps is learning how to not care so much about what others think of you/trying to "please" them.
(Maybe we should talk...
)
Carek1230
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Go for it, Devlin!
MsGiggles
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You should do what's comfortable for you rather than do "what everyone else is doing". Besides, there's nothing wrong with certain people thinking you're a good girl (your parents and older relatives, coworkers, etc.)
HelloAngel
ONE love, blood, life
To echo what the others have said.. it's true - you only go around once. Enjoy your life, but make sure it's on your own terms and no one else's. Don't do stuff outside of your comfort zone, or things that make you feel uncomfortable. Change is good, growth is good, embracing life is good - but make sure that you stay true to yourself above all. 
Numb1075: As in Ms. MacPhisto? 
I dunno, it's nothing dramatic, more like pretending to be friendlier than I really am, or pretending large crowds don't make me want to crawl under a rock and stay there until they go away, that sort of thing. Just seems like my terms are offensive for everyone around me. Admittedly, I am difficult. Very difficult. And somehow, I like it that way. I gotz attitude. And I'm rather tired of pretending to be amiable, gregarious, and a team player, when I'd really rater be left alone most of the time. It's not that I'm not friendly, mind, it's that I mind being ordered to be friendlier because everyone else's feelings get hurt when I say,"Ok. Look. Here's the line. You want to stay over there until I invite you closer." Whatever.
I dunno, it's nothing dramatic, more like pretending to be friendlier than I really am, or pretending large crowds don't make me want to crawl under a rock and stay there until they go away, that sort of thing. Just seems like my terms are offensive for everyone around me. Admittedly, I am difficult. Very difficult. And somehow, I like it that way. I gotz attitude. And I'm rather tired of pretending to be amiable, gregarious, and a team player, when I'd really rater be left alone most of the time. It's not that I'm not friendly, mind, it's that I mind being ordered to be friendlier because everyone else's feelings get hurt when I say,"Ok. Look. Here's the line. You want to stay over there until I invite you closer." Whatever.
tommyvill
The Fly
the real question should rather be:
ok you wanna change...but WHY you wanna change?
I mean...if you think you need to appear different to the others, well maybe inside
of you there's something that even you can't accept...so you change your external image that's easiere and more comfortable to change.... try to focus on it, and possibly fix it...all the styles changing hides it...what you think you need? and what you REALLY need?
good luck...and good look!!!!
ok you wanna change...but WHY you wanna change?
I mean...if you think you need to appear different to the others, well maybe inside
of you there's something that even you can't accept...so you change your external image that's easiere and more comfortable to change.... try to focus on it, and possibly fix it...all the styles changing hides it...what you think you need? and what you REALLY need?
good luck...and good look!!!!
Actually, it's more accepting what's in me, than trying to be different for the sake of being different. My goal is to stop fighting who I am, just to appear more 'acceptable' in society's eye. I feel like I'm smothering myself just to make other people happy. And I'm rather tired of doing that.
I kind of really need to be more confident in myself as a person. No, more specifically, I need to trust myself.
I kind of really need to be more confident in myself as a person. No, more specifically, I need to trust myself.
Windmilllane
War Child
This tread reminds me of Sandy from the movie Grease. How she goes from a sweet, innocent virgin to a hot, naughty, dirty little slut.
Not that I'm putting any thoughts into your head, Devlin.
Not that I'm putting any thoughts into your head, Devlin.
BAW
The Flower
Windmilllane said:This tread reminds me of Sandy from the movie Grease. How she goes from a sweet, innocent virgin to a hot, naughty, dirty little slut.
Not that I'm putting any thoughts into your head, Devlin.
Do you make comments like that to people in real life or do you just feel bold because you're behind a computer screen? Can't you go and find a porn forum or something?
Windmilllane
War Child
it was tongue-in-cheek. sorry.
JMScoopy
Refugee
Bono's American Wife said:
wow, someone sure takes the heat quickly
JMScoopy
Refugee
lmjhitman said:
i've seen what he posts, it doesnt offend me at all. i think it's funny. i dont understand how people get so upset because of something someone they dont even know says on some message board.
i guess people today take shit too seriously.
just a thought
Liesje
Blue Crack Addict
JMScoopy said:
i've seen what he posts, it doesnt offend me at all. i think it's funny. i dont understand how people get so upset because of something someone they dont even know says on some message board.
i guess people today take shit too seriously.
It's not the slightest bit funny. Maybe in a more appropriate thread or forum, yes, but this forum is for serious issues. Depression, anxiety, relationship issues, eating disorders, family tragedies, etc....those aren't funny. For many people here, this isn't "some message board". I've met many of the people that post here and I know others have very close relationships with fellow Interferencers. I understand you and Windmilllane apparently live in some sex-obsessed bubble world, but the rest of use having to deal with reality would appreciate it if he cut the shit already.
hiphop
Rock n' Roll Doggie ALL ACCESS
LivLuvAndBootlegMusic said:
ye forgot to count me in!
BAW
The Flower
JMScoopy said:
wow, someone sure takes the heat quickly
Actually, I can handle the heat quite nicely, thank you
I just think it really sucks when someone starts a serious thread about the direction of their life and windmillane has to pop in with his dirty slut obsession.
JMScoopy
Refugee
LivLuvAndBootlegMusic said:
um, what brought me into that?
btw, i didnt mean funny as in what he said was funny, i mean funny like " ha ha look at that asshole" funny.
JMScoopy
Refugee
lmjhitman said:
aww, thanks for the wink, scoopy. that makes it all better.
you're welcome.
nbcrusader
Blue Crack Addict
JMScoopy said:
i've seen what he posts, it doesnt offend me at all. i think it's funny. i dont understand how people get so upset because of something someone they dont even know says on some message board.
i guess people today take shit too seriously.
just a thought
Perhaps a forum created for confessions and seeking counsel are not the best place for sophomoric sex humor.
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