When I was a child in Virginia, this day was also known as Decoration Day. Everyone would go to the church cemeteries and put flowers and other memorabilia on the graves of their loved ones, including veterans. I believe this is still done in the South. I continue to do this, to this day. My mom's and dad's, and grandparents', resting places here now have new flowers. And mom's has a piece of quartz rock from her home place in Virginia, that my sister put there, as well as 15 pine cones, one for each of her kids, their spouses/signifcant others, and their kids.