I have to say that I am a bit offended by some comments in this thread about Facebook and Twitter being a place for narcissism. I don't see myself like that in anyway. I participate in those social mediums as a way to connect with friends and would-be friends and contacts. Granted, I do not post mundane things, like what I had for breakfast, but I do post whatever I find thought provoking or humorous. I even talk about important (but not personal) things in my life to share with others. If what I post leads to more people following me, that's cool - hopefully I'm affecting someone in a positive way. That doesn't mean that I think I'm the most awesome person ever.
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BonosSaint
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People use social media for all sorts of reasons and present themselves in all sorts of ways. Much of the social media I've been exposed to has been of the mundane variety and my comments were meant to reflect what I've experienced and observed. It was not meant to be comprehensive. I will cop though to overgeneralization.
I do use twitter when I'm looking for up to minute information--first news. I've found it very effective for that.
Look, I sometimes read a blog by a racehorse I've followed.
And I'm pretty sure she doesn't even write it herself.
I do use twitter when I'm looking for up to minute information--first news. I've found it very effective for that.
Look, I sometimes read a blog by a racehorse I've followed.
And I'm pretty sure she doesn't even write it herself.
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That would be fun.
Irvine511
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hmmm ... looking back on it, it was actually "100 things about me," which might take more effort than i've got right now.
but if someone wants to start ...
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Meaning, no actual questions? You provide your own list of 100 things about you?
You're right. That would take a bit of effort.
You're right. That would take a bit of effort.
Irvine511
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i'd repost mine, but it was 4 years ago, and some things have changed.
it was a fun exercise though.
MrsSpringsteen
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No need to be offended, it's about people who use it in a certain way. And overuse it. And it's just my worthless opinion.
There have actually been studies about social media and narcissism, I think it's an interesting topic.
I wouldn't call your opinion worthless 
I see social media like all other forms of socialization. At a party for example, you get people who always talk about themselves, or you get those who go out of their way to pick on others. Online, you get the same thing - people who love to boast or people who love to verbally attack others. Twitter and Facebook are just like a real life party.
I see social media like all other forms of socialization. At a party for example, you get people who always talk about themselves, or you get those who go out of their way to pick on others. Online, you get the same thing - people who love to boast or people who love to verbally attack others. Twitter and Facebook are just like a real life party.
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maycocksean
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I remember that! I think that was not too long after I joined Interference and I remember I did feel like I "knew" you a little better from that post.
I haven't been in the journals in ages. . .I heard that they aren't used as much here anymore.
I'd love to do that 100 things here, but I don't know how we'd get it going.
It sounds like most of us are not overly different from how we are in "real" life here, beyond being a little less confrontational in real life. I know there are those who have created alters and reentered the FYM conversation, but they seem to be identified and called out very quickly. I guess even those of us who want to "hide" here can't. Which makes what this woman in Catfish did all that much more remarkable.
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i do think it's true that there's no "hiding" for the regulars in here. i could spot everyone's writing from a mile away.
i'd think that disguising your writing might be as difficult as disguising your voice. which is interest.
if i have some time tomorrow, maybe i'll start the 100 Things About Me thread.
i haven't posted in the journals in years.
i'd think that disguising your writing might be as difficult as disguising your voice. which is interest.
if i have some time tomorrow, maybe i'll start the 100 Things About Me thread.
i haven't posted in the journals in years.
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I am largely the same person online as off, although I am much more outgoing online. In person I am really shy and I find it very difficult to meet people and make friends. I can't even remember the last person I met and became friends with in person -- it has to have been at least a decade ago. Online offers me the ability to think through what I want to say and better plan how I present myself. I can also back out of uncomfortable situations online much easier (the old "Sorry! My computer locked up" line comes in very handy) online, so I'm much more willing to jump into conversations than I would be in person.
For the past 15 years I have been a full time caregiver to my disabled aunt and, until her death several years ago, also to my mom...not having an outside job, and having the time I can spend away limited also cuts down on the meeting new people opportunities. So for me, online communities, including social media sites, have enabled me to have contact with people and to make friends.
And I'll admit it -- I am one of those people who has posted about what I had for breakfast (complete with photos of the waffles every stage of the way from batter to plate). But we did have a highly intellectual discussion of the merits of various waffle toppings and methods of consuming them, so it should be acceptable to the FYM crowd.
For the past 15 years I have been a full time caregiver to my disabled aunt and, until her death several years ago, also to my mom...not having an outside job, and having the time I can spend away limited also cuts down on the meeting new people opportunities. So for me, online communities, including social media sites, have enabled me to have contact with people and to make friends.
And I'll admit it -- I am one of those people who has posted about what I had for breakfast (complete with photos of the waffles every stage of the way from batter to plate). But we did have a highly intellectual discussion of the merits of various waffle toppings and methods of consuming them, so it should be acceptable to the FYM crowd.
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And I'll admit it -- I am one of those people who has posted about what I had for breakfast (complete with photos of the waffles every stage of the way from batter to plate). But we did have a highly intellectual discussion of the merits of various waffle toppings and methods of consuming them, so it should be acceptable to the FYM crowd.
Ah, but your description of breakfast would have made me laugh. Therefore contributing a great social value to a social media.
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I am largely the same person online as off, although I am much more outgoing online. In person I am really shy and I find it very difficult to meet people and make friends. I can't even remember the last person I met and became friends with in person -- it has to have been at least a decade ago. Online offers me the ability to think through what I want to say and better plan how I present myself. I can also back out of uncomfortable situations online much easier (the old "Sorry! My computer locked up" line comes in very handy) online, so I'm much more willing to jump into conversations than I would be in person.
For the past 15 years I have been a full time caregiver to my disabled aunt and, until her death several years ago, also to my mom...not having an outside job, and having the time I can spend away limited also cuts down on the meeting new people opportunities. So for me, online communities, including social media sites, have enabled me to have contact with people and to make friends.
And I'll admit it -- I am one of those people who has posted about what I had for breakfast (complete with photos of the waffles every stage of the way from batter to plate). But we did have a highly intellectual discussion of the merits of various waffle toppings and methods of consuming them, so it should be acceptable to the FYM crowd.
Indra, you were one of the first people I "met"here. I've always enjoyed your posts (I missed the waffle one though
) It was from you I learned that The Church is more than the place I go every Saturday morning sunnysideoflove
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Indra, you were one of the first people I "met"here. I've always enjoyed your posts (I missed the waffle one though
aww... Thanks!
About posting mundane crap on facebook -- I'm from Ohio...I know I'm boring. I just don't mind.
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Having read some further contributions, particularly from Irvine, I though I'd post more.
I do think the internet, be it sites like this, be it Facebook/Twitter, be it porno, gambling sites - whatever - is not necessarily a good thing for people like me, by which I mean, introverts, people that naturally tend to isolate, people whose default position is to retreat into the ego, particularly ones with addictive personalities, and particularly when things go wrong. On the other hand nothing bad has ever happened to me on the internet, so it's an odd sort of a quandary. The things that f*** you up are things that happen in real life, things not working out in the way you'd hoped or planned - whatever. Some of them are your fault, most of them aren't, if you're like me, you beat yourself up for the things that aren't your fault, yet don't take yourself to task for the things that are. As an atheist, I have to accept that there is not some masterplan, that this is the way things are because this is the way things are.
Mrs S said earlier that she thought of her life as boring, I consider myself not so much boring but a comparatively immature person, in terms of social skills and that stuff you're supposed to have learned how to do by the time you hit thirty-five (long term relationships, marriage, kids, being on parents' committees). I kind of aspire towards considering myself boring. I kind of aspire towards being someone who women of my own age group consder as trustworthy, reliable, a catch. I'd think of it as a step upwards from my current existence of failed professional fratboy (heh). But, I'm not particularly sure whether I'm prepared to put in the effort to turn myself into something I may not want to be.
I've come to the realisation that there are comparatively few people that I naturally click with, there's a decent proportion that I can rub along with alright if one makes even a minimal effort, and there's another proportion that one can establish a grudging peace with, and that might take a fair bit of effort. And sometimes it's worth it, and other times it isn't. And that's ok.
I do think the internet, be it sites like this, be it Facebook/Twitter, be it porno, gambling sites - whatever - is not necessarily a good thing for people like me, by which I mean, introverts, people that naturally tend to isolate, people whose default position is to retreat into the ego, particularly ones with addictive personalities, and particularly when things go wrong. On the other hand nothing bad has ever happened to me on the internet, so it's an odd sort of a quandary. The things that f*** you up are things that happen in real life, things not working out in the way you'd hoped or planned - whatever. Some of them are your fault, most of them aren't, if you're like me, you beat yourself up for the things that aren't your fault, yet don't take yourself to task for the things that are. As an atheist, I have to accept that there is not some masterplan, that this is the way things are because this is the way things are.
Mrs S said earlier that she thought of her life as boring, I consider myself not so much boring but a comparatively immature person, in terms of social skills and that stuff you're supposed to have learned how to do by the time you hit thirty-five (long term relationships, marriage, kids, being on parents' committees). I kind of aspire towards considering myself boring. I kind of aspire towards being someone who women of my own age group consder as trustworthy, reliable, a catch. I'd think of it as a step upwards from my current existence of failed professional fratboy (heh). But, I'm not particularly sure whether I'm prepared to put in the effort to turn myself into something I may not want to be.
I've come to the realisation that there are comparatively few people that I naturally click with, there's a decent proportion that I can rub along with alright if one makes even a minimal effort, and there's another proportion that one can establish a grudging peace with, and that might take a fair bit of effort. And sometimes it's worth it, and other times it isn't. And that's ok.
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I started my list (so everyone can see how boring and narcissistic I can be
) because I always enjoyed both writing those things and seeing how other people answer. Now the catch will be, how many people will respond? It's a lot to ask somebody to do. So, if you'll do one, Sean,I'll finish mine and the first one done starts the thread. I'm not sure if Irvine wanted to do another one.
I used to like the journals (blogs now, I guess), but no, there isn't much activity there. Kind of lost its way.
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Where's your list? I'm confused (more so than usual around here )
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My list is hanging out in my purse right now, waiting for me to come up with 100 things about myself. Then I will start a thread if I'm sure a couple of people intend to add their list. You in?
MrsSpringsteen
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I'll read yours but mine would maybe be 20. I don't think 100 things about me even exist. And 2-100 would probably be no one cares (maybe 2 is too egotistical, maybe 1)
100 things that piss me off-right now that would be a cinch for me
(maybe 2 is too egotistical, maybe 1)100 things that piss me off-right now that would be a cinch for me
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Then give us your 20. I have this horror of being the only one posting in that thread. I've only come up with 20 so far anyway. And yeah, I'm egotistical enough to come up with 100 eventually.
MrsSpringsteen
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If you start the thread I will do it-maybe not until Monday though. That will be my homework assignment.
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I won't be done until tomorrow at the earliest anyway.
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maycocksean
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I'm in.
BonosSaint
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Then it's a go. I'll post next day or two.
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I'll commit to 25...knowing me, that'll probably be as many words as some people's 100 anyway.
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maycocksean
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Yolland, you truly are the smartest person I know. Those 25 will undoubtedly be brilliant beyond measure.
No pressure or anything. . . .
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