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The true danger of drinking and driving is bringing home someone like this.
The true danger of drinking and driving is bringing home someone like this.
in 2005 i was pulled over after getting off a train because i had a tail light out. before i got on the train i had a few drinks.
my BAC was just a hair over the legal limit. if it had been 2 years earlier, my BAC would have been well below the legal limit and they would have let me go on the spot.
i was arrested by a NY State Trooper and brought to their station house... i did not have to spend any time in jail and was released within a few hours.
i had a good lawyer whom i had known most my life who just happened to have worked as an assistant DA with the Judge whom i was assigned to. because my BAC was so close to the legal limit, and because i had a good lawyer, i was able to cut a plea, dropping the DUI to a charge of DWAI (driving while ability impaired).
i served 40 hours of community service... which i did at a local state park doing manual labor. i served my last 8 hours during a blizzard, clearing snow away from some of the buildings on the boardwalk as unbelievably cold wind whipped in off the Long Island Sound.
i was suspended from a volunteer coaching position.
had to pay $500 in fines, lawyer fees (thankfully less than they would have been due to my longtime relationship with the lawyer... he was my neighbor), and another $750, payable over 3 years, in "driver assesment fees"
i had a conditional liscense for 6 months in which i could only drive to work/school. had my photo ID taken away from me during this period.
my car insurance sky rocketed... it has only just recently come back down, but is still much higher than it should have been... i had to live with my parents for much longer than i ever would have wanted to because of this. all the fines and extra fees and insurance strained my finances, hurting my credit score.
and it's all my fault. i have every reason to be bitter about it... i was barely over the limit, a limit which was just recently changed. i wasn't speeding, i wasn't swerving all over the road... i was on a straight stretch of road 10 minutes from my house, and the only reason why i was pulled over was because my taillight was out.
but i'm not... it was a stupid decision, one i regret, and one i'll never make again. i still drink, but have not and will not ever get behind the wheel of a car again after doing so... even after having just a couple. i would gladly pay the occasional obscene cab ride fare to get the thousands of dollars that i have lost in fines and increased insurance rates.
so yea... these fines and rules are a major pain in the ass. and that's the point. it was the most humiliating time of my life... one i will never go through again.
knowing how embarassing it is... how financialy deblitating it can be... if you continue to do it regardless of all that, then you need to check yourself into rehab, because you obviously can not make rational decisions when you drink.
everyone makes mistakes along the way... if you can not learn from those mistakes, then you have a problem.
I just don't see it as a mistake.
Part of the entitled generation. If I don't get caught, then it's not wrong...
I think the other part is: "If I don't think it's wrong, then it is not wrong."
on the flipside, and im not specifically talking about drunk driving, "oh well its against 'the law' so it MUST be wrong."
And speeding increases your likelihood of crashing, so where does "personal responsibility" come in? Where does "personal responsibilty" come in when you can't brake quick enough in order to avoid a crash?I don't think it's wrong to speed either. It's just wrong to crash. I prefer personal responsibility.
I've had plenty of nights where I knew I couldn't drive, and I didn't. I've had plenty where I knew I'd be fine and I was.
Indeed. Or "if the government thinks it's wrong, then it must be."
And speeding increases your likelihood of crashing, so where does "personal responsibility" come in? Where does "personal responsibilty" come in when you can't brake quick enough in order to avoid a crash?
You joked about being impaired enough to bring home the "ugly" girl, but yet you think you have complete control over an automobile? Do you honestly think there isn't a delay in reaction time due to alcohol?
I acknowledged that it was a joke, please re-read. But there's a reason it's a very cliched joke, because alcohol DOES impair your judgement.Take a fucking joke.
So says everyone until it happens.I have time to stop myself in both cases.
Indeed. Or "if the government thinks it's wrong, then it must be."
Distracted Driving Summit
At the Department of Transportation's Distracted Driving Summit, Secretary Ray LaHood kicked off the two-day conference to battle what he described as a menace to society: the problem of texting while driving, one LaHood deems an endemic that "seems to be getting worse every year."
Numbers released this morning by the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration reveal that drivers younger than 24 are the worst offenders, but that it's a growing trend among all ages. In 2008, drivers who weren't paying attention took nearly 6,000 lives and caused half a million injuries. Eighteen states and the District of Columbia ban texting while driving but, ultimately, LaHood said, he would like to eliminate texting while driving nationwide.
When you drive a car, you drive a car. No need to do thousand other things. And you don't need to be available any damn second.
CULTURES MOVE in slow motion. Thirty years ago, when I was at the peak of my drinking life, it was more than acceptable to drive while drunk. The question of fitness-to-drive was at best a non-issue, an attitude of indifference to the law being regarded within the drinking culture as a badge of honour.
I do not believe that people then were indifferent to the risks to themselves and others. There was simply a different way of thinking. For one thing, we were more governed by a sense of fate and providence than obtains now. We did not tend to see things in the sociological way that today, due to a particular form of media influence, is almost second nature. A person’s attitude to driving while drunk was regarded as pretty much his own business, neither approved nor disapproved of. If you had an accident or got caught you were regarded as unlucky. If someone got killed, the driver responsible became an object of pity, almost to the same degree as the family he had caused to become bereaved.
Our culture has moved a considerable distance. A drunk driver is now an unambiguously shameful figure and we have had some high-profile cases in which this became abundantly clear. It is widely agreed that, in this context at least, there can be no cultural trading off of human lives for a skewed idea of freedom.
At the back of the plaintive lamentations of FF backbenchers is the deep-seated belief that it is impossible to enjoy yourself without getting pissed. A majority of Irish people still seem genuinely puzzled by the concept of non-alcoholic enjoyment. (“What? – you can have fun without drink? – tell me more!”) Across a range of pursuits – sport, music, conversation – our culture insists that alcohol is a sine qua non of full enjoyment. This equation of freedom with a deadly drug has made it difficult for us to see as clearly as we otherwise might the real life-and-death issues gravitating around our misconceived ideas of what it means to be happy and free.
It is difficult to be heard on this subject if you have, like myself, left the bottle behind. Irish society tends to adopt a self-serving dismissiveness towards such interventions on the basis that they “obviously” signify a desire to spoil everyone’s fun. Thus, our diseased drink culture protects itself from the logic of those among its casualties still capable of speaking out.
The real issue, which urgently needs to be placed before our younger generations, is that Irish drink culture is neither normative nor incapable of renovation, that drug-induced pleasure comes at a huge cost, and that sobriety is a door to a different and healthier way of seeing reality.
If we have any responsibilities to the next generation, we have surely a duty to tell them what we discovered when we tried to be free.
If we have any responsibilities to the next generation, we have surely a duty to tell them what we discovered when we tried to be free.
Scary line.
better invade.