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Old 09-23-2010, 08:36 PM   #1
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But less socially proficient participants performed significantly better on oxytocin, with their empathetic powers performance identical to that of the more outgoing participants.
Prof Jennifer Bartz, of the Mount Sinai School of Medicine, said: "Oxytocin is widely believed to make all people more empathetic and understanding of others.
"Our study contradicts that. Instead, oxytocin appears to be helpful only for those who are less socially proficient.
"Our data show that oxytocin selectively improves social cognition in people who are less socially proficient, but had little impact on more socially proficient individuals.
"While more research is required, these results highlight the potential oxytocin holds for treating social deficits in people with disorders marked by deficits in social functioning like autism."
Oxytocin – the love hormone – could cure shyness - Telegraph

I'm a shy person, and reading this article made me wonder - would I want to be cured of my social problem?

I'm not sure. On one hand, I would like to be more socially at ease and not clam up often. But on the other, I feel like rebelling against society's view of shy people - we have no personality, we're snobs, we only care about ourselves, etc. I think shyness should be seen as not a big deal by our loud mouth world. I mean, the world could use some peace and quiet now and then.

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Old 09-23-2010, 08:43 PM   #2
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I first thought it said "oxycontin" and I was like, duh being high usually does cure shyness.
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Old 09-23-2010, 08:52 PM   #3
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Having sex raises oxytocin naturally.

The organic cure for shyness is having sex. Figures.
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Old 09-23-2010, 08:57 PM   #4
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i thought it was alcohol? always worked for me
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Old 09-23-2010, 09:07 PM   #5
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Having sex raises oxytocin naturally.

The organic cure for shyness is having sex. Figures.
Then it's the chicken and egg debate...

If you're too shy ever to get someone to actually have sex with you to begin with then how do you have the sex that will cure your shyness?
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Oxytocin – the love hormone – could cure shyness - Telegraph

I'm a shy person, and reading this article made me wonder - would I want to be cured of my social problem?

I'm not sure. On one hand, I would like to be more socially at ease and not clam up often. But on the other, I feel like rebelling against society's view of shy people - we have no personality, we're snobs, we only care about ourselves, etc. I think shyness should be seen as not a big deal by our loud mouth world. I mean, the world could use some peace and quiet now and then.

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he's a bot, right?
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It's the only explanation...
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All personality quirks and non-mainstream ways of life are pathologies to be diagnosed, medicated and smoothed out, the way we always airbrushed pantless Uncle Chester from the family gatherings.
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i thought it was alcohol? always worked for me
I drinking my "shy-away" stuff right now: red wine.

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I mean, the world could use some peace and quiet now and then.
Yes. It's frustrating being shy, to be sure.
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I was an extremely extroverted kid, then became painfully shy in my pre-teen years and then became somewhat extroverted again late teens.

Either extreme is tough. I've found that some still perceive me as shy at times when I'm just trying to listen and take it in, and Pearl is right some take it the wrong way. For me it really depends on my environment as to "what" I am.
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I was having a (slightly alcohol induced) conversation about a similar topic this past weekend. It's what Kieran was getting at in his post. All these personality 'disorders' are too readily diagnosed and treated these days. What ever happened to old fashion personality types? I for one dont want to live in a world where everyone is even keeled and boring. If someone is a little shy, so be it. If someone is a little hyper, good for them. There should be distribution of personalities in society. Why they feel they need to normalize it is beyond me. Unless it's keeping someone from functioning, just leave them alone
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I was having a (slightly alcohol induced) conversation about a similar topic this past weekend. It's what Kieran was getting at in his post. All these personality 'disorders' are too readily diagnosed and treated these days. What ever happened to old fashion personality types? I for one dont want to live in a world where everyone is even keeled and boring. If someone is a little shy, so be it. If someone is a little hyper, good for them. There should be distribution of personalities in society. Why they feel they need to normalize it is beyond me. Unless it's keeping someone from functioning, just leave them alone
I fully agree... I think it should come down to a question of how functioning that person is if we're talking about prescription medicating.
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I was having a (slightly alcohol induced) conversation about a similar topic this past weekend. It's what Kieran was getting at in his post. All these personality 'disorders' are too readily diagnosed and treated these days. What ever happened to old fashion personality types? I for one dont want to live in a world where everyone is even keeled and boring. If someone is a little shy, so be it. If someone is a little hyper, good for them. There should be distribution of personalities in society. Why they feel they need to normalize it is beyond me. Unless it's keeping someone from functioning, just leave them alone
Thank you. Well said. There's all sorts of ways to help bring people who have difficulty with social interaction out of their shells a bit. If this does work, if it's helpful to those who are severely affected in this area, fine, that's their choice. But yeah, we shouldn't just run to medication as our first means of solving any sort of problem.

Count me in amongst the incredibly shy as a child. Got the exact same stereotypes that Pearl alluded to thrown at me, and on report cards teachers always put down the old "Needs to speak up more often in class" thing. I'm still a fairly quiet person overall, but I have greatly improved in my social interactions over the years. I guess I just like to feel comfortable around somebody before I start yapping on about stuff, like to know they'll actually be interested in what I have to say. Much admiration for people who are outgoing and able to start up a conversation with anybody that crosses their path, who are honest and upfront about things-sometimes I do wish I had some of those abilities. But for the most part, I dunno, I'm perfectly happy with the way I am .

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As a young child I was quite shy. And as a matter of fact I still am, but as a high functioning freak, I can hide it when need be. What I cannot hide is the boredom and mistrust I feel of those who choose to express themselves loudly, at length, on a plane of banality to which I would not ever want to aspire.
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