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Old 03-23-2010, 01:56 PM   #1
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Why is it so important for women to look eternally young? As someone who does look very young -- I am often mistaken for twenty, despite being thirty four --, I can tell you it isn't nearly as much fun as you are led to believe by the media. You are not taken seriously. You get repeatedly asked about your 'beauty regime'.

I'm confused: what, exactly, is a 'beauty regime'? I don't have one. Nor do I want to develop one. Although I have my suspicions that all this 'beauty regimening (is that even a word?) and makeup applying actually causes wrinkles.

Perhaps, just perhaps, I ought to test the theory that sleeping in makeup adds ten years to one's face.

Huh. Wonder if I'll look thirty then?

I have even been offered tutoring in how to 'maintain my youthful glow'. Huh? Do I somehow come across to you as someone who wants a 'youthful glow'? If I looked any younger, I'd get harassed for being truant from grade school. Really.

Is it too much to ask for, is it really much too hard, for the the fashion and 'beauty' industry to come up with clothing that helps a person look their age? I'm not fond of the teenager look. I'd like to trade it in for a wrinkle or six, kthx.

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Old 03-23-2010, 02:23 PM   #3
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Yes, Beaver she does. And she actually gave me permission to do so. However, your mommy called to have me tell you it's time for your nap and your sippy cup.
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Why is it so important for women to look eternally young?
Because modern western society has deemed it so!

Society has told us we are no use to anyone once we gain an ounce of flab, a tiny wrinkle, or have stopped becoming birthing machines.

(Okay, I really only stand by the first part, and the second part is mostly an exaggeration.)

I'm 36 and don't mind looking younger. I like the looks of surprise I get when the cashier at the liquor store sees me ID.
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Yes, Beaver she does. And she actually gave me permission to do so. However, your mommy called to have me tell you it's time for your nap and your sippy cup.
I don't want to nap. Not yet. Five minutes.
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Old 03-23-2010, 02:49 PM   #6
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What's to enjoy?
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Old 03-23-2010, 03:35 PM   #8
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Enjoy looking young?

I'm 37 and I get told I look in my 20s and I appreciate the compliment. I don't have fake boobs or botox or lip injections or anything like that so why not enjoy the fact that you look naturally young without having to make any unnatural enhancements like so many women out there do. By the time you're 50 or 60 you might be wishing you appreciated it more when you were younger.
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I could see an issue if I were in my 30s and look 20 - I'm sure there would be situations where I'm not respected, or condescended to if people think I'm "just a kid."

Looking younger than you are gets better and better as you get older, but if you look THAT much younger, I could see how that could cause annoyances in some situations.
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Enjoy looking young?

I'm 37 and I get told I look in my 20s and I appreciate the compliment. I don't have fake boobs or botox or lip injections or anything like that so why not enjoy the fact that you look naturally young without having to make any unnatural enhancements like so many women out there do. By the time you're 50 or 60 you might be wishing you appreciated it more when you were younger.
See, to me, it isn't a compliment. It's insulting. It makes life difficult for me. There are things I want to do in my life that are made harder by my perceived youth and inexperience. I have to work twice as hard to be considered half as good. There really are no advantages to me being looked at as a 'kid'.

Feh. All this might be amusing when I'm fifty. Maybe. Somehow, I doubt that very much.
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I suppose if you look like a 'kid' I can see an issue with certain situations. What about trying a different hair style or the way you dress, get some sophisticated looking glasses, or you can borrow my grandma's earrings..
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Or try to interject the following sayings into conversation:

"You damn kids, get off my lawn!"

"Back in MY day ..."

"I have a whole stack of VHS tapes and 8-tracks to get through this week!"

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Old 03-23-2010, 04:13 PM   #14
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Haha! Crusty Grandma Devlin. Insert Tyler Perry's Madea.

Yes, Sicy, I'll borrow your grandma's earrings. That might work.
Yeah, I want to try a new way to dress. Everyone wants to sell me low-rise pants. Which... is a no. :P I think I'm going to have to get completely away from jeans. Go for something else. As far as hair, I've noticed that the shorter my hair is, the older I actually look. The longer it is, the younger I look. Creepy.
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Why is it so important for women to look eternally young? As someone who does look very young -- I am often mistaken for twenty, despite being thirty four --, I can tell you it isn't nearly as much fun as you are led to believe by the media. You are not taken seriously. You get repeatedly asked about your 'beauty regime'.

I'm confused: what, exactly, is a 'beauty regime'? I don't have one. Nor do I want to develop one. Although I have my suspicions that all this 'beauty regimening (is that even a word?) and makeup applying actually causes wrinkles.

Perhaps, just perhaps, I ought to test the theory that sleeping in makeup adds ten years to one's face.

Huh. Wonder if I'll look thirty then?

I have even been offered tutoring in how to 'maintain my youthful glow'. Huh? Do I somehow come across to you as someone who wants a 'youthful glow'? If I looked any younger, I'd get harassed for being truant from grade school. Really.

Is it too much to ask for, is it really much too hard, for the the fashion and 'beauty' industry to come up with clothing that helps a person look their age? I'm not fond of the teenager look. I'd like to trade it in for a wrinkle or six, kthx.

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Because modern western society has deemed it so!

Hasn't it always been the case throughout history that youthful women were praised while older-looking women were not? Doesn't the rest of the world put youthful women on pedestals too?

I think its a male thing. For some reason, some men prefer younger looking women, and that puts pressure for most women to look as young as possible. We don't see men checking out women with gray hair, but for some women a man with gray hair and some wrinkles is sexy (ie, Sean Connery, George Clooney to name a few).
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Why is it so important for women to look eternally young?
Because we've bought into the notion that the value of a woman is her desirability. And men trade in for younger versions all the time.

It's not just woman though, there are men who feel the same pressure to be youthful but more on the professional side.

Stacey and Clinton do a fabulous job on What Not to Wear of helping people taylor their style to age and career appropriate looks.

On the flipside, when I was a pre-teen I had the opposite problem. Developed very early and looked 4-5 years older. Unwanted attention from much older teenage boys along with a couple of very threatening situations have left their emotional scars with me.
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Hasn't it always been the case throughout history that youthful women were praised while older-looking women were not? Doesn't the rest of the world put youthful women on pedestals too?
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Because modern western society has deemed it so!
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I used to look young too. Got mistaken for being younger all the time. Then one morning I woke up and looked like crap.

Fortunately, that was after Jess had already married me.
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