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Old 09-20-2012, 03:39 PM   #16
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I'd never heard of a father-daughter dance outside of weddings and those creepy-ass "purity balls" or whatever they're called. Why on earth would a school have something where daughters and fathers dance together? That's bizarre.
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and those creepy-ass "purity balls" or whatever they're called.
Now those are disturbing

Yeah, I would think teenagers want to distance themselves from their parents as much as possible, rather than go to a dance with them.
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it really would be a shame
this is a great chance for the dads to check out the other daughters
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I'd never heard of a father-daughter dance outside of weddings and those creepy-ass "purity balls" or whatever they're called. Why on earth would a school have something where daughters and fathers dance together? That's bizarre.
Oh man, purity balls, now there's a fucked-up idea.

I'm honestly surprised to see some comments along the lines of "I'm surprised this old-fashioned event still exists", since it's not something I've ever heard of, either as a dead tradition or a contemporary event. Either way, how utterly creepy. I wouldn't go to a dance with my mother, and if I were a father, no way in hell would I go to a dance with my daughter. I'd hope she's off dancing with a nice guy her own bloody age.
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I'm surprised by all the horror over the idea.

Are any of you parents?
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have you seen this movie?







I've seen it more than once, and each time the father's behavior is despicable
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I've seen it more than once, and each time the father's behavior is despicable
The image isn't showing up so I don't know what movie you're talking about.
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I'm surprised by all the horror over the idea.

Are any of you parents?
I'm not, so maybe my mind will change when I get to be one.

My relationship with my dad has always been dysfunctional, so maybe that is what influences my viewpoint on this subject.
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I'm not, so maybe my mind will change when I get to be one.

My relationship with my dad has always been dysfunctional, so maybe that is what influences my viewpoint on this subject.
Mine too.

I might have felt the same, but now that I am parent if I had a daughter (I have a son and another on the way) I think I would enjoy that.

I didn't grow up in a culture of dancing though and can't dance at all myself, so maybe it's just something that I don't understand? Does dancing always have a sexual connotation that would then make it creepy for parents and children to do together?
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I have not, but I just read about it on Wikipedia. What does this have to do with the Father-daughter dance? Oh wait, maybe you're just explaining your comment about the fathers checking out the daughters. . .
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I just find the concept of a school-related dance where parents are not only invited but encouraged to dance with their kids in front of their peers baffling. Or that there are kids (assuming teenagers) who would agree to this. I didn't put any sexual connotations with it.

The purity balls, however, are a whole 'nother ball of wax. And even then, it's not the dancing that's creepy about it.
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I have not, but I just read about it on Wikipedia. What does this have to do with the Father-daughter dance? Oh wait, maybe you're just explaining your comment about the fathers checking out the daughters. . .
Not being a parent, I am not heavily invested in this.
I do see more down sides than up sides. And yes if these are high school girls, some of the other dads could be distracted by. 17 year old girls, especially when some teens have no qualms about texting nude pictures of themselves.

There are plenty of things for parents to do in their opt in groups, such as churches, or other community, or club groups.

And then in these times of inclusiveness, a girl could have two mothers.

I am sure step-dads would not be excluded. A 17 year old could have a younger step-dad. He could be 25.

When I was in the 9th grade. A classmate was married to a 40 year old man. Her step-daughter was in two years older and on the cheer-leading squad with my sister.
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I got on just fine with my dad, but I don't recall us ever doing anything like this. I don't think the concept is creepy, though, personally-I can see where some would think that, but if it's simply a fun party situation for parents and children to bond in, then whatever, that's fine. I just can't imagine too many teenagers today jumping at the chance to do such an event. But I suppose there's some who like it, who knows.

But I definitely agree on the purity balls being creepy.
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Does dancing always have a sexual connotation that would then make it creepy for parents and children to do together?
No, but simple dancing between parents and children may seem awkward to some. Also, parents may act silly, or silly according to teenagers who usually are embarrassed by their parents in public.
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The purity balls, however, are a whole 'nother ball of wax. And even then, it's not the dancing that's creepy about it.
I swear, when I hear term "purity balls" I either seethe with anger or want to take a quick shower immediately. It sounds so icky, and misogynistic as well.
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