I'm surprised by all the horror over the idea.
Are any of you parents?
I'm surprised by all the horror over the idea.
Are any of you parents?
I didn't grow up in a culture of dancing though and can't dance at all myself, so maybe it's just something that I don't understand? Does dancing always have a sexual connotation that would then make it creepy for parents and children to do together?
Be glad.
And it bears noting, before someone suggests I hate virgins ( ) - there is nothing wrong with a young woman wanting to remain a virgin until marriage. That's not the questionable part.
maycocksean said:I'm surprised by all the horror over the idea.
Are any of you parents?
Nothing like a ceremony putting a woman's worth on her virginity. And that it's all on her - no mention of the male half of the sex equation - it's all on her to remain pure! And if she slips, or changes her mind, she's broken her vow to her daddy! Ick.
Are you a daughter?
I'm a parent and I'm surprised too.
I just know that if I were at some sort of formal dance event and saw a father dancing with his daughter or a mother dancing with her son, I'd find it very bizarre and awkward.
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“This is 2012 and they [public schools] should not be in the business of fostering blatant gender stereotypes,” Steven Brown of the Rhode Island ACLU told WPRO News.
Except for wedding receptions right?
Axver said:Tonga
Asking me about anything to do with weddings is like asking somebody in Tonga about today's weather in Helsinki.
Speaking of weddings - when we were considering where/how to get married, we were pretty floored by the Catholic priest who told us that the Catholic Church has a strong preference that brides are not walked down the aisle by their fathers. In fact it is opposed to such a practice but many/most parish priests don't see it as a fight worth having so they let it go. The Church's position is that women are not chattels to be given away by the patriarch (or by both parents - such a practice is also opposed). Rather, they advocate that the couple comes down the aisle together, either alone or accompanied by close family/the wedding party. The priest either waits at the altar or greets them at the entrance to the church and then walks up with them.
Interesting given the Church's generally terribly backwards ways when it comes to gender.
Speaking of weddings - when we were considering where/how to get married, we were pretty floored by the Catholic priest who told us that the Catholic Church has a strong preference that brides are not walked down the aisle by their fathers. In fact it is opposed to such a practice but many/most parish priests don't see it as a fight worth having so they let it go. The Church's position is that women are not chattels to be given away by the patriarch (or by both parents - such a practice is also opposed). Rather, they advocate that the couple comes down the aisle together, either alone or accompanied by close family/the wedding party. The priest either waits at the altar or greets them at the entrance to the church and then walks up with them.
Interesting given the Church's generally terribly backwards ways when it comes to gender.
Really? My two sisters were given away by our dad at their weddings and I haven't heard of any of my Catholic friends and family not being told to arrive at the altar with the groom. Is this a Canadian thing or did you hear it here in New York?
Some of these traditions come from a time period in societal culture when marriage was treated as a contract between families and the transfer of wealth and property played an important role. “Giving away of the bride” ritualized this contract. In this light, you can see how the tradition of the father escorting his daughter to her groom may have developed.
Catholics, however, believe that the bride and groom give themselves to each other as equal partners, and as one, they give themselves and in a very particular way their marriage to God. That is why the rite directs the bride and groom to walk in together or to be escorted by both their parents. This is a practice you hardly see, but it is the preferred practice according to the Church’s teaching about the Sacrament of Marriage.
Does this mean it would be inappropriate to go with tradition? Not necessarily. Parents play a major role in our lives, and sharing this moment with them is a gift. But there are ways to blend tradition with what the rite asks for. For example, the groom might walk in first with his mother and/or father, followed later by the bride with her father and/or mother. Discussing these options with your family and parish ministers will also give you some valuable time to reflect on the role your family has had in your relationship and maybe even help mend divisions.
We were told this in Toronto but we were also given a cathechism publication that explained it. I've actually looked it up online and there are numerous references to it (from mostly American Catholic websites) so I do think that it is legitimate, just not commonly practiced.
Here is an excerpt from Together for Life (a Catholic org):
Asking me about anything to do with weddings is like asking somebody in Tonga about today's weather in Helsinki.
The Church's position is that women are not chattels to be given away by the patriarch (or by both parents - such a practice is also opposed). Rather, they advocate that the couple comes down the aisle together, either alone or accompanied by close family/the wedding party.