So you're going on record here as being in favor of a separate but equal status for gays?
and doesn't it make this way, way more complex than it needs to be?
conservatives pretend to be about liberty, and about reducing government in our lives, so why create an entirely new category of relationship? wouldn't it be cleaner and simpler to simply expand marriage -- by about 5% -- to include gay people? why go through the fuss of creating this clear, distinct, separate-but-equal category? why not just allow two adults to commit to each other legally and call it a marriage?
i think the real reason is that there seems to be a need to denigrate gay people. to tell them that they're not as good as you. that's the only reason why i see all this contortion around something that's really very simple. there has to be a stigmatized status so that a parent can affirm to a child, legally, that a gay person isn't as good as a straight person (so don't you dare be gay, junior).
all these "biological differences" are just window dressing on what really is very deep prejudice, something that i don't even think that many people are even aware of. you are saying, "no, YOU have a civil union, and I have a marriage. we are different, you see? we have to legally codify that difference."
this is why marriage is so threatening. because once the gays get married, once society really does say that there's nothing intrinsically wrong with a gay person, you have nothing to blame your prejudice on except your own ignorance.
and that's scary for some people. they know they have no rational arguments other than the "Adam and Steve" defense.