mama cass
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yolland, it was a bit of a shock for me too when i moved to France from the UK... was chatting to someone once who was quite matter of fact about her partner having had a "mistress", she just brought it up in passing conversation while i tried to stop my eyes popping out of my head lol
i live in quite a small community in rural France, and have seen quite a bit of switching going on around in terms of relationships in certain circles, and also there have been a fair few horror stories of local business men who have had serial affairs supposedly without their wives knowing, followed by horrible public humiliation of the wife in one particular case i know of! the men are literally applauded and cheered on by other men, and the wives are blamed for their infidelities! that to me has been incredibly shocking... it's pretty destructive i think... one lady i know is aware her partner is unfaithful, says she hates it, but just turns a blind eye, and recently two friends have finally split from their serial unfaithful partners after years and years of turning a blind eye... the worst thing here is the horrible gossip surrounding it all - there is zero anonymity and the locals pry so much into people's business it truly is vile!!
also, here it's not just the men, a couple of ladies i know with children (married or in a long-term relationship) have had several flings, and they're really not phased or embarrassed about it at all - it's all totally out in the open, and the kids just have to put up with it apparently, moving in and out of the family home with their mums' new boyfriends, etc... although in those particular cases, the husband/partner are also known to have affairs...
i feel such a prude sometimes lol!!
i am in a monogamous relationship, and couldn't or wouldn't want to be any other way - i would be devastated if either myself or my husband took that step and slept with someone else... to me sex is a big thing, hugely intimate, and it would be a massive thing for me to make that decision to physically be with someone else, i couldn't live with myself really, but that's just me - people just have to be how they're comfortable being...
i live in quite a small community in rural France, and have seen quite a bit of switching going on around in terms of relationships in certain circles, and also there have been a fair few horror stories of local business men who have had serial affairs supposedly without their wives knowing, followed by horrible public humiliation of the wife in one particular case i know of! the men are literally applauded and cheered on by other men, and the wives are blamed for their infidelities! that to me has been incredibly shocking... it's pretty destructive i think... one lady i know is aware her partner is unfaithful, says she hates it, but just turns a blind eye, and recently two friends have finally split from their serial unfaithful partners after years and years of turning a blind eye... the worst thing here is the horrible gossip surrounding it all - there is zero anonymity and the locals pry so much into people's business it truly is vile!!
also, here it's not just the men, a couple of ladies i know with children (married or in a long-term relationship) have had several flings, and they're really not phased or embarrassed about it at all - it's all totally out in the open, and the kids just have to put up with it apparently, moving in and out of the family home with their mums' new boyfriends, etc... although in those particular cases, the husband/partner are also known to have affairs...
i feel such a prude sometimes lol!!
i am in a monogamous relationship, and couldn't or wouldn't want to be any other way - i would be devastated if either myself or my husband took that step and slept with someone else... to me sex is a big thing, hugely intimate, and it would be a massive thing for me to make that decision to physically be with someone else, i couldn't live with myself really, but that's just me - people just have to be how they're comfortable being...