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Old 01-08-2009, 03:38 PM   #16
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I'm not sure why it's so strange he wants to be compensated.

If you are married and you pay off your spouse's student loans, you are entitled to compensation for that. In fact, you're entitled to a lot of different types of compensation on the dissolution of marriage, especially in situations where one spouse keeps something (house, car, etc) that the other doesn't.

So just consider this to be another form of property.
Because he claims he did this out of love. If you love someone enough to save their lives, you don't want compensation for it just because they stopped loving you. I wouldn't want compensation for saving a stranger's life if I could, let alone someone I loved.

"To this day I would still do it again," he said." So then, what's the problem? Some people just can't let go. He's pathetic. No wonder she left him. He probably reminded her every day that he "loved" her so much that he gave her a kidney.

ETA: Ok, there was nothing in the article about saving her life, but one can assume a kidney did that.
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I can't tell you how many times I have had to sit and listen to someone rage and rage about an ex-spouse. Betrayal, and every filthy word is used.

Some people become consumed by it and it has actually destroyed any future happiness. I survived one real bad breakup, betrayal.

That was a learning experience. Whatever I believed I lost, I had to ask myself, how much more of my present and future did I want to throw down that same black hole to never get back again?

Sanity kicked in, and I let go and moved on.
Life is wonderful, there are countless opportunities and possibilities out there.

Now, this guy? Would he rather he had not donated his kidney?
Is he telling his children that wished their mother had died??

Great father.
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Old 01-08-2009, 03:48 PM   #18
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An ex of mine still owes me $5,000. I'm sure I will never see it again and I don't care. It helped him at the time, and I loved him.
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An ex of mine still owes me $5,000. I'm sure I will never see it again and I don't care. It helped him at the time, and I loved him.
Did he charge you for the donations you made to you.
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Did he charge you for the donations you made to you.
I generally get that upfront.

Let me rephrase that. Oh never mind.
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abcnews.com

Medical Expert Says Surgeon's Quest for Kidney Compensation Is 'Soap Opera'
Husband Says Wife Had Affair After He Gave Her His Kidney
By SARAH NETTER

Jan. 8, 2009—


Dr. David Cronin, the director of liver transplantation at the Medical College of Wisconsin, has been performing liver, kidney and pancreas transplants for more than a decade. He says a price tag cannot be placed on a human organ.

"Any efforts that have been made to sell organs, broker organs & have come up and been squashed," he said about Richard Batista's legal tactic.

Cronin likened donations from live donors to a contract in which the donor agrees to give up the organ to the recipient and expect nothing in return.

The National Organ Transplant Act of 1984 says that an organ donation from a living donor is a gift and is not eligible for "valuable consideration."

Phone calls placed to both Richard and Dawnell Batista seeking comment were not immediately returned today.

Richard Batista, according to his profile with the Nassau Healthcare Corp., is a graduate of the State University of New York at Stony Brook and Cornell University Medical College.

'Just Foolish'

A representative for the National Kidney Foundation told ABCNews.com that the foundation did not want to comment on Richard Batista's request "because it's very individualistic, and we haven't come across anything like this before."

There have been ethical questions raised about donors receiving peripheral compensations such as travel and hotel expenses, but Cronin said those circumstances have generally been accepted by the medical community.

As far as Richard Batista's getting his kidney back from his soon-to-be ex? That isn't going to happen either, according to Cronin.

"That's just foolish," he said.

But if a judge were to award the surgeon compensation for the kidney specifically and not just divorce-related damages, that could challenge the notion of organs as gifts.

Cronin likened the whole story to a soap opera, calling it an "entertainment blip."
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This guy probably has the same legal advisor as this guy.

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Because he claims he did this out of love. If you love someone enough to save their lives, you don't want compensation for it just because they stopped loving you.
Don't people do things for their spouses "out of love" all the time and then get compensated for it in a divorce?
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An ex of mine still owes me $5,000. I'm sure I will never see it again and I don't care. It helped him at the time, and I loved him.
im down w that program.

my old gfs who i've tried to pay back tell me to get lost.



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Don't people do things for their spouses "out of love" all the time and then get compensated for it in a divorce?
Yes. People can be stupid, greedy, and hateful, no doubt about it.
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im down w that program.

my old gfs who i've tried to pay back tell me to get lost.



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Don't get me wrong, I would take it in a heartbeat. I need it, in fact. But he doesn't have it and it's history as far as I'm concerned. But then again, I never lend money or anything if I need/expect/want to get it back. I won't lend CDs or books or anything unless I am prepared to never see them again.
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i think you'll be blessed for your compassion in this life.


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That's sweet but it really isn't about compassion. It's common sense. It makes my life easier by being able to let go of things/people, even when I've been wronged. Doesn't mean I'm a doormat either, I just try to pick my battles wisely.
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Old 01-08-2009, 06:08 PM   #30
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Yes. People can be stupid, greedy, and hateful, no doubt about it.
People who once loved each other are capable of incredible cruelty.

Maybe because I've read dozens of family law cases that this guy doesn't even seem strange to me.
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