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Well, I guess this is what happens when we want gay celebrities to be spokespeople for the entire World of Gay: people go and pick apart and question everything they've ever said about it.
My point is that she's saying she doesn't want to define herself as bisexual, for whatever reason, and I think that needs to be respected.
Queer Theory
That should be the name of a gay nu metal band.
In a Queer Theory course I took in college (granted, it was introductory, so we didn't get into higher levels of thought on the subject), one of the notions presented that I agreed with was the notion that sexuality exists on a spectrum. As a result you have strongly hetero people, weakly hetero people, bi people with a tendency towards hetero, bi people with a tendency towards homo, etc. As a result, I'm not threatened by the notion that sexuality is an ever-evolving thing. There are gay people I've known who have shifted towards heterosexuality, and straight people I've known who have, over time, shifted towards homosexuality. This doesn't seem controversial to me, based on a perspective on sexuality that seems to make sense.
I understand however that this can be fuel for the fire of those who think that sexuality is only a choice -- completely ignoring the environmental, chemical, biological (?) factors that can also influence one's sexuality (to say nothing of issues like trauma, abuse, etc that can also affect one's sexuality).
There are gay people I've known who have shifted towards heterosexuality, and straight people I've known who have, over time, shifted towards homosexuality. This doesn't seem controversial to me, based on a perspective on sexuality that seems to make sense.
But I’m not really interested in guessing at what Nixon’s “true” sexual identity is—that’s her business, and labels are always only approximations at best. What does interest me, however, is the alternate political model that her comments suggest. She asks why choosing one’s sexual orientation is any less legitimate than being theoretically “born this way,” and in so doing, Nixon questions why we depend on biology as a measure of worth as opposed to creating a society where the sexual relationships between consenting adults need no justification at all.
It’s a compelling thought, a world where grown-ups don’t have to explain away their sexual activities by way of what amounts to an unavoidably apologetic “I can’t help it.” Still, many critics will argue that appealing to biology is the only way to protect against the attacks of the religious right—if God made me this way, surely you can’t hate me. But I have to agree with Nixon that depending on biology cedes a great deal of control to bigoted people; after all, much of Christianity is based on the idea of resisting sinful bodily desires. If homosexuality is truly genetic, why not just ignore it, like good old heterosexual lust?
Crap people like Doctor Phil will probably say the opposite I wrote, but ask anyone at APA what they think about it...
Depends on when you asked them. Prior to 1973 they had a very different position.
Depends on when you asked them. Prior to 1973 they had a very different position.
6. men and women appear to have differently-wired sexual responses, likely resulting in a higher percentage of women who identify as bisexual and a higher percentage of men who are exclusively gay (or straight); generally speaking, crude physical indicators appear to have much more power over the male sexual response than the female
I haven't personally known more than a couple out/self-identified bisexual people, but I'm not sure they'd all necessarily agree they "have a choice" in some meaningful way that straight and gay people don't? If you're bi and the person you're deeply in love with right now is someone of the same sex, well, then that is what it is, isn't it? You could choose not to pursue that particular person of course, but in principle so could anybody. And even setting aside that kind of deep present attachment to someone, I was under the impression that many (not all) bisexual people experience themselves as going through phases in their attractions, really only "into" the same sex during some periods in their lives, really only "into" the opposite sex during others. I do personally tend to assume Nixon really is bisexual, but I still find the "gay by choice" self-description somewhat odd and contradictory despite assuming that.The only people who "have a choice" in the matter are bisexuals--by definition.
I feel like I should also add that this afternoon I hit the "anger" stage of grief over my stolen car, and the internet is taking the brunt of it.
Sorry if I'm coming across as combative.
Cynthia Nixon is a bisexual. She even admits so, regardless of whether..
3. Ms. Nixon seems to find her own personal truth is more important than the movement she appears to be a part of, in that she must know that her words will be used against the movement as a whole; but then again, anyone who would read her comments and say, "ah-ha! you see? it *is* a choice!" isn't likely to be terribly LGBT-friendly to begin with.
4. however, much of the LGBT movement has constructed it's argument that it isn't a choice, and the evidence backs them up: people really can't change their sexual orientation.
Irvine511 said:Cynthia Nixon is right, but she's not helping. she's coming from a place of enormous privilege and comparatively little cost in coming out,