Irvine511
Blue Crack Supplier
As you said, if it appears that teens are faced with purity rings or net porn...how can they determine when sex is just sex and when it forms part of an intimate relationship? How do they determine healthy boundaries?
as much as it shocks parents, most of these healthy boundaries and intimate relationship building are part of growing up. no one can do it for you. you can guide your child, you can make your values known, you can arm them with knowledge and condoms, you can tell them they will be ruined -- just ruined! -- by having sex. but ultimately it is their decision, and they are going to lean some hard lessons and there will be joy and happiness in there as well.
another uncomfortable fact is that most kids who do have sex in high school actually aren't destroyed for life by that fact. and the other thing is that -- extreme situations aside where we get sensationalistic stories about "blow job parties" or whatever ... and that goes back to 1991, anyone remember the "Pussy Posse" in San Antonio? -- when it comes to sexual relationships between teenagers, and those relationships end, it's often the boys who are more devastated and more prone to depression afterwards. girls have their friends, boys tend to be more alone.
and we haven't even talked about boys, and we're replicating the unspoken dynamic that sex is something that girls let boys do to them, and if we're to stop it, then we must make the girls stop letting the boys do it to them. and this is where i think Nathan made some sense as he was bringing boys into the equation.