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She's too busy PMing other posters about how hard she's going to slap them.
I am a cougar, 43, and proud of it. I date a younger man and I spoil him rotten. In return I get great sex, a house cleaner, a chef, personal chauffeur and a man who dotes on my every word ( he even does my laundry, folds it and puts it away)..
But Edin thinks the most compelling theory is that marriage has disappeared because women are setting the terms—and setting them too high for the men around them to reach.
The End of Men - Magazine - The Atlantic
This article is long but so worth reading as it really brings home the struggle of men to adapt to changing gender roles and the resulting effect on families and society.
A number of things jumped out at me, and there is a section dedicated to the mainstreaming of cougars (even in Japan), but rather than quote tons of paragraphs here, this is the one that is not fully explored in the article, but definitely worth more consideration.
But Edin thinks the most compelling theory is that marriage has disappeared because women are setting the terms—and setting them too high for the men around them to reach.
Meanwhile, modern women shunned farm life, lured away by jobs and adventure in the city. They occasionally returned for the traditional balls, but the men who awaited them had lost their prestige and become unmarriageable
What really happens aboard a 'cougar cruise'? - USATODAY.com
One of the comments. The house cleaner/ laundry sounds like the best part
I am a cougar, 43, and proud of it. I date a younger man and I spoil him rotten. In return I get great sex, a house cleaner, a chef, personal chauffeur and a man who dotes on my every word ( he even does my laundry, folds it and puts it away).. Oh, and he works 10 hours shifts too! I am successful and run my own company. In the last three years that we have been together I have taken him on four two week cruises and on many luxurious vacations. I am a woman who knows what she wants and who normally gets it. I give a lot of credit to my lover because it is obvious by reading here that so many men are intimidated by a sexually aware woman who has money. What a shame. You have no idea what you are missing!
I date a younger woman and I spoil her rotten. In return I get great sex, a house cleaner, a chef, personal chauffeur and a woman who dotes on my every word (she even does my laundry, folds it and puts it away).. Oh, and she works 10 hours shifts too! I am successful and run my own company. In the last three years that we have been together I have taken her on four two week cruises and on many luxurious vacations. I am a man who knows what he wants and who normally gets it. I give a lot of credit to my lover because it is obvious by reading here that so many women are intimidated by a sexually aware man who has money. What a shame. You have no idea what you are missing!
...Hey look, it's a character from "Mad Men".
I find men of all ages interesting, but I'm probably most attracted to men close to my own age (a few years older, a few years younger). Young men do flirt well, though and it's flattering.
Have any other women noticed that younger men seem to flirt better than the older, even unmarried ones? Maybe men think younger women flirt better too? Flirting is its own art form.
Knowing Mrs. S , I'm pretty sure she isn't applauding any exploitation. Just because Mrs. S posts something, doesn't mean she's giving it the "Mrs Springsteen Seal of Approval". Just a topic for discussion.
Men have always defined their own sexuality. I think too that many of them have also tried to define women's sexuality or , if not to define it, to set the parameters for it. I think it makes some men uncomfortable that they too might be perceived to have a shelf life for their desirability. God knows, it has made women uncomfortable for all time.
now they say Halle Berry is 'Cougar of the week',
From what I've observed, I'd say it's the reverse. Younger guys seem to come off a bit more clumsy and awkward in their flirting, older guys (perhaps because of years of practice) seem a little smoother at it, a little more natural.
I've been told that, despite my shyness, I'm painfully obvious in my flirtation attempts
Also, excellent article there, financeguy. I have to say, I'm inclined to agree with it.
Would you be willing to share an example of your painfully obvious flirting techniques?
I find the younger guys generally more bold and aggressive (not necessarily blunt or crude) but will back off respectfully and humourously if I flash my wedding ring. The older ones are more subtle but not necessarily more smooth and tend to disregard the wedding ring, or act like I should disregard it, which leaves me feeling creeped out.
Same here. When shame doesn't work, throw in some fear to keep us in our place.
LOL, um, well, nothing overtly humiliating, but I have this tendency to start hovering around wherever a guy I like is hanging out. For example, when I was in high school, I had this crush on a guy, and he was in the school band (I think he played the tuba ). They were playing at some town event downtown for some Christmas preparation stuff going on, and my sister knew I liked him, and she proceeded to drag me by him what seemed like every five minutes. I mean, I guess I could've, you know, pulled away and gone off somewhere else or something, but...yeah (we became good friends, but nothing further, by the way). So I perhaps come off slightly...stalkerish, I guess I'd have to say, even though that's not at all my intention.
And then of course I find myself staring at them a lot, laughing at practically every single thing they say or do. I know these are common flirting techniques and there's nothing wrong with them, I just may kinda do them to a bit of excess and I'm just not very subtle. When I like somebody, everyone around me knows it without me having to actually say so.