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Old 03-01-2012, 09:08 PM   #121
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Reading is fun
that'll do me. you don't even read the links you post.
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Old 03-01-2012, 09:13 PM   #122
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that'll do me. you don't even read the links you post.


I don't read the links I post?


Why do you accuse me of that?
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Old 03-01-2012, 09:13 PM   #123
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Isn't it nice that so many of you checked the link
on the book?


Reading is fun
In the off chance you're just not aware, IH, what you're doing is most definitely trolling. And in the off chance you're also not aware, trolling is against the rules of this forum.
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Old 03-01-2012, 09:15 PM   #124
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I don't read the links I post?


Why do you accuse me of that?
because i'm losing count of the number of links you've posted that either don't work, or are totally contradictory to your pretense.
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Old 03-01-2012, 09:21 PM   #125
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because i'm losing count of the number of links you've posted that either don't work, or are totally contradictory to your pretense.

What are the links I have posted that don't work?
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Old 03-02-2012, 02:26 AM   #126
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Nearly all of them, dude. You are either an idiot or an asshole, there is literally no in between.
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Old 03-02-2012, 07:23 AM   #127
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How do you define 'tummy ache' and 'sore stomach'? I've never said they're different, but one phrase is more age appropriate than the other. But anyway, as I said, it's not really worth putting any more discussion into.
There's numerous instances where it made people commit suicide. So even though the term might sound age-inappropriate, it might be worth taking more seriously what's behind.
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Old 03-04-2012, 01:57 PM   #128
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The person doing the bullying in a workplace or anywhere else is the one who isn't acting like an adult, not the victim of it. So I think the world bully is entirely age appropriate, considering their behavior. There are plenty of adult bullies in this world, and workplace bullying is a legitimate term that exists.

I saw The Artist Friday and the trailer for Bully the documentary was shown, just the trailer was pretty emotional. They really need to do something so that movie can be seen by kids. Adults need to see it too. They should NOT censor the language, yes..talk about a grotesque irony. It does remind me of censoring the 9/11 documentaries for language. Completely ridiculous.
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:40 PM   #129
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I think there is bullying in the work place. I think adults are capable of bullying. I think cyber-bullying is a form of bullying and adults participate in that. Ganging up is a form of bullying. I have seen occasional bullying in this forum.

There was an article in my local paper about a large judgment because of workplace bullying

California physician assistant wins $168 million in bullying suit - latimes.com
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Old 03-05-2012, 06:06 PM   #130
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Hey guys. I think I may have dealt with several episodes of workplace bullying at my last job.

During my 18 months there, my boss at the time was the most unprofessional manager that I've ever come across. She would always raise her voice at me and give me dirty looks. She would also rudely criticize and scrutinize everything that I did.

Worse, she would say to me the most hurtful things:

"I don't care what you did at your last job"
"I don't like your personality"
"I don't have any confidence in you"
"I don't know why you have to be different from us"
"It's too exhausting to deal with you"

Needless to say, she eventually fired me.

Do you guys think I deserved to be treated like that?
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Old 03-05-2012, 06:10 PM   #131
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How could we possibly answer that when we've never seen you work?
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Old 03-05-2012, 06:12 PM   #132
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not much context

were you a member of a barbershop quartet?
a sex worker?
Are you Julie Taymor?
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:05 PM   #133
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My work is pretty much irrelevant.

I can't think of one boss who would tell one of his or her subordinates "I don't like your personality".

That's pretty unprofessional if you ask me. Especially if everyone at my job really liked working with me.
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Old 03-06-2012, 05:16 PM   #134
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Your work has everything to do with it. Depending on your behaviour and productivity, that is maybe the only quote that might be a little off side. Me thinks you're being a little bit sensitive
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Old 03-08-2012, 02:48 AM   #135
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Bullying is a complex situation. Kids taunt each other in school and that is natural but the extremes to which some kids take it should never be allowed. Punishing it may work at a young age, but in my experience punishing an adult for bullying does not work. The behavior should not be allowed or tolerated in the first place. Ignoring it will usually cause it to escalate, not make it better. When it comes to kids, the best option is to take the kid and work through it (if you have the means) and get them to express themselves in more appropriate ways.

I was never taunted too badly in school, mostly because I stayed out of the way and never made myself a target. However I did experience some bullying in my adult life on an internet forum. My childhood of respectful encounters actually helped me to deal with the situation, because I already knew that people like that were not worth attention. In my childhood, those people were looked down on and never got anywhere. So that's how I viewed them and dealt with it.

Bullying, IMHO becomes a habit because kids don't know how else to feel important. It will continue into adulthood if it is ignored. They need to find better ways to boost their self esteem and that kind of skill building starts in elementary school.

A contrasting perspective, my fiance was bullied rather horrifically her entire life. She is extremely sensitive because of it. Nobody ever babied her. Her dad always told her to "just deal with it and get over it". She can't, it's just not in her nature. She did ignore it, but ultimately it did have an effect on her by making her even more sensitive. She's living proof that "let the kids deal with it, they're just being babied too much today" does not work at all.

She lost her trust in authority figures after watching them allow other kids to do terrible things to her. One of the things I will never forget is when she told me that she stopped trusting adults by 4th grade because she knew they couldn't protect her. There needs to be a balance. You need to give kids a chance to fend for themselves, and let them have their tolerance pushed, but you also need to know when it's time to step in and say "Enough".

At their core, bullies are people who trip on power. They like to have control over other people. Ignoring them just means they'll go find someone else to abuse--someone who is less strong than you. You need to start from an early age and teach them that there are better ways to get what they want and better ways to "find power".
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