Liesje
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his version was much more hate filled.
his version was much more hate filled.
I do think that a person who hates/doesn't want kids AND hates/doesn't want pets is probably not a very nice person. At least this has been my experience.
what i think is best is to have kids, and then spend their lives first resenting them, because pregnancy forced you to put your dreams and ambitions on hold, and then you should take your dreams and foist them on your child and then berate them whenever they fail to live up to said shattered dreams in order to instill a perpetual feeling of worthlessness and inadequacy no matter what they might happen to achieve.
that's what's kept the middle class striving for years!
what i think is best is to have kids, and then spend their lives first resenting them, because pregnancy forced you to put your dreams and ambitions on hold, and then you should take your dreams and foist them on your child and then berate them whenever they fail to live up to said shattered dreams in order to instill a perpetual feeling of worthlessness and inadequacy no matter what they might happen to achieve.
that's what's kept the middle class striving for years!
Way to make a sweeping generalization there, Irvine.
I was going to comment on this thread, but then I realized it's descended into incomprehensibility, and that there are ridiculous generalizations on both sides, so I'm going to leave well enough alone.
But yes, there was a lot of outright ridiculousness in the last couple pages.
That is exactly what I was doing, though his version was much more hate filled. I don't care, really, I just don't like to see anyone bashed for loving. And NO ONE who spends as much money as parents do on their kids are selfish, sorry. It's like calling suicide bombers 'cowards.' Sure takes a lot of guts to know you're going to die detonate the bomb anyway. I don't like or respect them or what they did, but don't call them 'cowards.' I really, really do think it's stupid of anyone to call anyone 'selfish' for wanting or not wanting a kid.
That, and to want them to find our accomplishments, whatever they are, to say good things about us. Which unfortunately can lead to a felt need to denigrate those of others if you don't feel yours are getting enough respect.There's something in human nature that wants others to validate our choices by choosing the same thing.
My mom knows better than to bug me about when I'm going to get married and give her grandbabies. She knows she might not be getting any from me.
In all seriousness, I will never understand the obsession in recent years with writing articles/blogging/debating etc. people's reproductive choices. If people want to have a child(ren) and they have the financial, physical, emotional, and mental stability and desire to do so, they should. If they choose not to have a child(ren) for any reason, that's their business as well. It should be a non-issue.
It's really a non-issue with my circle of family and friends. It's not brought up, and really never has been except for an initial question when first meeting. "Do you have any kids?" "No." Moving on...
She even had one male doctor tell her that it was her "obligation as a woman" to bear children. I was shocked, to say the least, that that mindset exists in the 21st century.
When will we women just learn that it's our sole responsibility to be a vessel for children? We serve no other purpose! We are nothing but our uteruses (uteri?)!
Vomit.
but many people like to have kids, and shouldn't be judged for instincts that are fairly normal.
what i think is best is to have kids, and then spend their lives first resenting them, because pregnancy forced you to put your dreams and ambitions on hold, and then you should take your dreams and foist them on your child and then berate them whenever they fail to live up to said shattered dreams in order to instill a perpetual feeling of worthlessness and inadequacy no matter what they might happen to achieve.
that's what's kept the middle class striving for years!
Only here is annrkeyintheusa given a hard time for saying stuff that is perfectly normal.
Children are bullied for having interracial parents, poor parents, rich parents, physically disabled parents, etc. Children are bullied for wearing glasses. Children can be cruel.I have reservations about gays adopting kids - for example, the kids could be subjected to bullying - but it's abundantly clear to me that the average middle class gay couple make much better parents than the average heterosexual underclass/welfare couple.
It really should be a non-issue at that point, but I have a friend who's been berated, even by perfect strangers, for answering "no" to this question.
I'm assuming these were at parties, gatherings, etc. Beats me.Why the fuck are complete strangers even asking her a question like that?
I'll tell her that.If they ask why she doesn't want children, she should tell them, quite calmly, that she doesn't want them to turn out to be complete assholes like them.
Or, if she doesn't want to sink to their rude level, a perfectly cast withering glare before turning away would suffice.
Why the fuck are complete strangers even asking her a question like that?
Only here is annrkeyintheusa given a hard time for saying stuff that is perfectly normal.