I've also talked to a friend at work about the Koran. He talks and acts in a modern way but when he proceeded to tell me in a very calm, and in an as matter of fact way, how we don't need Democracy because Islam is a holistic political and religious system and Sharia law is all we need I couldn't believe what he said. I mean if you don't like Democracy why immigrate to Canada? He's from Pakistan and it technically is supposed to be a democracy so I think he's disgusted with the democratic example he has seen and yearns for an end to it.
And that's the problem. Pakistan really isn't a democracy, as much as it is a corrupt plutocracy dominated by dynastic politics. One gets the sense that Musharraf took over Pakistan for just this reason in 1999, but, regardless of his intentions--good, bad, or otherwise, it is still as much of a dynastic plutocracy as before.
I think the biggest problem is that many people think that, as long as you hold elections, you're a "democracy" and all is well. Bush certainly fueled that notion with Iraq, most recently, which has probably left any number of Iraqis yearning for the "security" of dictatorship again, even though a true democracy would be better. The added problem I think many people have not considered is the fact that we're trying to transplant democracy, as a hallmark institution of Western Civilization, into Islamic Civilization, which has absolutely no tradition in democracy whatsoever and appeals to Platonic, Aristotelian, or Lockean ideals are likely an exercise in futility, at this point. Granted, there is Turkey, which is probably our only example of Western and Islamic Civilizations successfully meeting, but Turkey had made a conscious decision to be "Western" without prodding from the West, so I'm not sure that they count entirely.
Nonetheless, if the goal would be to educate those on the virtues of Western Civilization, I'd argue that we've failed in educating most "natives" of the West, let alone outside civilizations with completely different cultural and historical traditions. Our tendency to "dumb down" discourse to appeal to mass audiences, rather than aiming to educate, has reached a fairly troubling impasse presently.