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Old 07-26-2011, 01:48 PM   #1
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50% of Men Would Dump Girlfriend for Getting Fat

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According Ask Men's annual Great Male/Female Surveys, half of all straight men say they would dump a girlfriend who got fat. 20 percent of straight women say they'd dump a boyfriend who got fat.
Silver lining: Half of straight men also think can tell when women fake orgasms, and another half say they would be upset if they discovered a woman had been faking orgasms. So, with any luck, these are all the same half of men, and when they dump their fat girlfriends, the girls respond, "All my orgasms were fake, anyway.
Half of Men Would Dump Their Girlfriends for Getting Fat

OK FYM guys: Would you dump your girlfriend for putting on weight? Does it depend how much weight she puts on? What about you, are you keeping your weight under control? What if she gets pregnant with your kid?

Or do you find this study to be misrepresentative of the American male?

I'll be honest - if the man I am dating suddenly lets himself go and gains 100lbs, if he doesn't do anything about it, I may consider letting him go. I prefer someone who takes care of himself.

Honestly, I think we could have a good discussion here on dating, appearances, and the differences between the sexes as well as same sex dating.
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I'm on my phone so I couldn't read the whole thing. Did it state age? How long you were dating? Etc?

I think if you're young and your significant other puts on a significant amount of weight over a few months that can be alarming. Not only for shallow aesthetic reasons but also long term health, will they just let themselves go type of reasons.

I've never dumped anyone for this reason, but have known plenty of boys and girls who have.
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Honestly, if she put on a large amount of weight and didn't seem to care to do anything to change it, yes, I'd consider it.
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I'm on my phone so I couldn't read the whole thing. Did it state age? How long you were dating? Etc?
I checked out the actual survey and no, it doesn't mention age or length of relationship.
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it's not like, "i won't date fat people because i'm shallow, so if you get fat i will dump you because fat people are ugly, and i am shallow," it's more that if someone were to gain a large amount of weight it would raise questions as to what else is going on in their lives. this is a health issue, and i'd feel it my job as part of a couple to tell the other person that i was concerned about their health and, yes, about their physical appearance (in the same way i'd tell them that they needed to shower or brush their teeth). obviously, there are better ways to handle this than others, offering to cook better food and exercise together is a great way to start, rather than, say, buying someone an exercise bike for their birthday (hint, hint) or simply withholding sex without an explanation.

but, if i were to answer such a question in a yes/no fashion that such a poll designed to shock demanded, i'd have to say "yes." which of course would be speculative.
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Only if she was eating herself to death. Agreeing with Irvine that positive reinforcement (like eating healthy and exercising) would send the signal better than negative criticism.
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I'm not a guy but...I think gaining a lot of weight and becoming obese would be a problem. It's not just about looks but overall health. Neither of us are perfectly healthy but we both try to stay within a certain range because we like being more active and having more energy. If I started packing on pounds I would hope that he would have some concern.
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OK FYM guys: Would you dump your girlfriend for putting on weight?
No. But (potentially, hypothetically) the opposite, as I like curves.

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Does it depend how much weight she puts on?
Up to a point. Gross obesity is certainly a turn-off.

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What about you, are you keeping your weight under control?
I don't tend to put on excessive weight. I was slightly overweight a few years ago but lost it when I took up a (very moderate) exercise regime, and stopped drinking a bottle of wine every day.

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Or do you find this study to be misrepresentative of the American male?
No idea, but I don't tend to put a lot of credence in surveys like this.
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Society by itself has created an sphere of influence where people put too much value on physical attractiveness and the constant search for it; what has happened to the appreciation of personality in a person without including physical traits?
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what has happened to the appreciation of personality in a person without including physical traits?

romantic love almost always involves some kind of physical attraction. what people find physically attractive can vary wildly, and the importance of physical attraction can vary wildly over time in a relationship.

but, given the question at hand, where we're talking about a "girlfriend" -- which i take to mean someone you are dating but have not yet become married -- yes, a significant weight gain that isn't due to health reasons but lifestyle choices would make me consider not continuing the relationship because i know, for myself, that i need to be with someone who makes healthy lifestyle choices because i need the help myself.
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I have a deal with a girl that if we're both still single at 30 (or 40, can't remember) that we'll get married, unless she gets fat.
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I have a deal with a girl that if we're both still single at 30 (or 40, can't remember) that we'll get married, unless she gets fat.
What if you get fat-is that part of the deal?
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I've been 60kgs give or take a few for 21 years, so it wasn't even discussed.
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I've been 60kgs give or take a few for 21 years, so it wasn't even discussed.

Well even men get "fatter" as they get older. And hypothetically it's a fair deal only if it applies to both people.
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